[desert orchid]

My question sounds really horrible I know but let me explain, we were due to be marrid which is now on hold because of this and we have a baby on the way. We had just moved house but my partner is staying at his dads because his mother has recently past he works all week so I've only seen him for about an hour at a time the past few weeks, he normally goes to the pub at weekends and spent all the easter holidays out with friends in the pub which I don't mind, however the next weekend we were going to have a night in as we hadn't done for a while ( I haven't been well and as I said I'm pregnant so we stay in) he was on his way over when his friend (female who he thinks is perfect) rings an asks him to meet her instead for a few... and he does.. they then end up in town after more than a few... he left me sat there all night crying to myself because he wouldn't come home, when he finally came back at half one in the morning after a few to many I asked why I was only worth an hour of his time and why hed dumped me to go out with this other woman to which he replyed "she will always be woth more than you you are just pregnant to me"... of course now he says that I'm his number one but she has always been a friend and always will be so I said being very angry you spent your only free time with her instead of spending it with me if you want to keep her then you lose me an the kids ( got a 2 more) and he said hel never tell this other woman that he's not going to be her friend so hel never come back. For the kids sake I've had to give in and let him back but I told him to keep her away I don't think things have happened between them but I will never be happy when he goes out with her an it is always going to start arguments id rather just get rid of this woman and have my familly back

[Kahani Punjab]

Desert Orchid,

First of all, I shall welcome you to this wonderful and beautiful site. Certainly, he has dumped you and it is the saddest part of the story, as you are mother of two of his children. Talk to him, convince him somehow, tell his mistress that he has dumped you and can do the same to you too, which will help you win her heart and at least she can help you, as it is she who can be of maximum help to you, by deserting him and by making him go for you. Negotiation is the key, but if you do it through her, it will be most effective dose.

I wish you best of luck!