[Nohitter410]

Ok so this really isn't about relationships at all but you guys have helped a lot.

Basically I just turned 23 years old and I am fresh out of college in my first job. I am living DC since September and just found out that I am moving to Philly very soon.(could be by end of march)

I know this type of job required moving but I guess I never really understood it until it happens. I am excited because there was a potential of me losing my job or going to another city but this allows me to stay in the area I was working at least and now I live there too. What is hard is I finally started to feel comfortable, I am very outgoing person and I meet people no matter what situation I am in but I have made so many great friends in DC and to leave them will be hard. I don't know that many people in Philly but I guess during the week I will be working anyway and the weekend I can still drive to DC or drive to NY or drive to boston. Either way this will be tough adjusting and I just hope I am able to be OK moving forward. I won't get sad or upset because I am very care-free I just don't want to just sit around or have to always go out alone just to meet people.

I have my work people but a lot of them are married or a little older. I am the youngest person in both regions. I know everyone will be like you will be fine just enjoy yourself, you have no ties really to anyone since all my family is in the midwest anyway but you just never know how you handle every situation put in front of you.

Thanks

[confused_guy]

When I moved to this area a year and a half ago I didn't know anyone. I basically had to make myself go out alone, but where I was still so empty inside from my last relationship and everything in the area was new, I didn't really care. But like you I am very social, so it wasn't too long before I made some friends.

Big "problem" for me here is that although I just turned 26, living in a small, poor area means that most people have a ton of baggage. 21 year old girls with 2 or 3 kids, seems just about everyone snorts pills, etc. Most of the friends that I made are either tied down in a relationship/marriage and/or are too broke to go out and enjoy themselves very often (be it at a restaurant, a bar, etc.)

Some of my friends aren't even 21 yet, while others are in their 30's. Puts me in a strange place at this age/stage of my life.

A good friend of mine recently moved to Florida and experienced much of the same isolation early on. He's VERY social too. Still, I think he's moving back this summer.



I guess what I'm getting around to is, you're definitely not alone. If you're feeling like socializing though, as much as it sucks, try going out by yourself. But don't just hang alone. If you see an opening, walk up to a guy/girl and initiate conversation. Won't be long before you make some new friends. Good luck.

[Skell]

I can understand your fear and it is OK to feel that way!

But just try as hard as you can to look at the positives in it that it is an opportunity for you to meet a whole range of new friends... and girlfriends ;)

I'm sure in a couple of months you will be here telling us it is the best thing that ever happened to you.

So have that fear but also look forward to the new challenge and the excitement it brings with it.

Good luck and keep us posted!