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    Jan 22, 2012, 04:49 PM
    I am stuck between two guys, what should I do?
    There are two guys. One of which I have dated for 7 months, the other who is his close friend. Guy 1 (the 7 month one) has been there for me, but we've never actually been on a date because I'm too nervous to go. He has been there for me through everything, but sometime I feel like I just don't like him anymore. Then guy 2, is very sweet, I have been talking to him for a couple weeks now, and hanging out with him and its just so much fun to be around him. But which one do I chose? The one I've been with for so long, or the guy that just brings a smile to my face? Help
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    Jan 22, 2012, 04:50 PM
    You are not even dating either, why should you do anything?

    If you want to date, date both for a bit, no reason you have to just date one person till you figure on picking one.
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    Jan 22, 2012, 05:00 PM
    How old are you, and why chose either? Keep them both as friends, and forget the titles.
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    Jan 22, 2012, 05:34 PM
    I am currently dating the first guy. And because I really really like both of them, but I like the second one a bit more, but I've been dating the first guy for ever. And I am 17.
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    Jan 22, 2012, 06:53 PM
    No, sorry, you even stated, you were never actually on a date since you were too nervous, sorry call them a boyfriend, call them a cow if they moo, but if you are not actually going out on dates, they are not boyfriends. They are "friends" who are boys, and you can still be with both, till you decide to just be with one, ( or neither)
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    Jan 22, 2012, 08:51 PM
    Is one of them pressuring you for a title?
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    Jan 24, 2012, 05:50 PM
    Neither are pressuring me. The first guy is currently my boyfriend but I agree since we haven't gone out we're not technically boyfriend and girlfriend, but it's still really hard to choice between the two guys and I just need help
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    Jan 24, 2012, 06:59 PM
    Whether the first guy and you are going out or NOT means nothing if its agreed to between you both, so is he your boyfriend or not? Does he think he is or what? If he is, then you should NOT even be considering another guy to date or be with.

    You really have me confused as I am not sure how the two guys see this, or why you have to choose. Tell me what makes guy one a boyfriend? If that's just the way YOU see him, then he isn't your boyfriend, just a friend.

    Is it a title or NOT you want from one of them?? If neither have asked you to be his girl friend, I fail to see how you are stuck between them?

    HELP!!
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    Jan 24, 2012, 07:18 PM
    You can date as many people as you want at once, as long as you make it clear to them that you are DATING, and that it is not a committed relationship you have with either of them, no need to choose. Now if you are in a committed relationship then end it, either way you don't seem to really know what you want, so why not stay single while you decide?
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    Apr 7, 2012, 04:00 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by abcfed View Post
    i am currently dating the first guy. and because i really really like both of them, but i like the second one a bit more, but ive been dating the first guy for ever. and i am 17.
    where u from I suggest leave both of them... or u will hurt there friendship either.
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    Apr 7, 2012, 09:26 AM
    I'm in the same boat. The loving, caring, serious guy, or the fun, exciting guy. My advice is that you just need time to figure out what you want. Tell your boyfriend you want a break. Go out with the other guy and just see what happens. If you have more feelings for the fun guy, then go for it. Just know that you have to put your happiness first.

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