[narco]

Moved to its own thread


I've been broken up with my girlfriend of 4 years. When I truly think about it. Today everything was returned completely to me. We've been broken up numerous amount of times, and I've felt myself coming back always. I can relate to the last couple of posts as she does have a child from her previous relationship. It was all nice as pie in the beginning, where we couldn't get enough of one another! We went on holidays, shopping, dinner, families house etc etc all the normal stuff.

But after a while things started to become difficult in the relationship as we not spending as much time with one another as she was busy with work, and her child which I did play my part, but I felt at times like I was being used. The father of the child wasn't consistent with the arrangement of keeping his child as he had found extra work and also he had another child with someone else. So when he was scheduled to come he would say his too busy. This was a problem because she wouldn't mind so she just accepted it all the time! I couldn't seem to be easy with this fully as it was happening regularly. I would air my thoughts but she will be hostile toward me as and when this occurred.

Other problems occurred and it felt as if one problem wasn't sorted another one grew! She wasn't a person to talk to as much especially when her affection started to detract. I love her a lot and I felt myself wanted to work at it but she wasn't showing me the affection she used to have for me. After a while she started to not become close to me which my mind did wonder if there was someone else but she was too busy for work and child.

Its crazy but we are Christians and she has walked out on me. She said she loved me a week ago then today she tells me she doesn't!? @@!?

[talaniman]

Sorry guy, Christian or NOT, you can't keep making up, and breaking up, and not expect it to finally be over for good.

She obviously has been trying to get away for a while, or thinking that way, before she finally ended it. I have no clue whether she will miss you enough to try again, or if there is indeed a better option for her to try.

Sorry I know it's a shock to the system.

[mmresd]

It seems like she is too busy with the baby, work, and the drama from the baby daddy to begin with. You there were once a great source of stress relieve, but since you started to get into their business you are putting pressure on her, as if rasing a child is not enough. She has broken up with you, only thing left to do now is to accept and respect her choice and learn how to be alone once again. Go no contact to shorten this process.