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brotherjoe2012 · Jan 20, 2012, 04:37 PM

I'm 23. I have a great relationship with my girlfriend, she's 19. I know she would never cheat on me and has no interest in anyone else. When we're together we always hug and kiss. If I don't hug or kiss her she will initiate it eventually because she enjoys it so much. She seems to be sexual in some way, she randomly feels my body and gets all excited about it. When she sees an attractive celebrity on TV she says things like "wow he's hot I'd bang him".

But after 2 months together we've rarely done anything sexual. First day together - we were already hugging and kissing, 2nd day - we were in bed half naked, week later - I gave her oral sex, she's never done that before. I asked her to do the same to me she said no. A week later I gave her oral sex again and eventually she gave in to doing it to me although it wasn't for long and she didn't seem that interested. She said it was because she's shy and she didn't know how to do it. But after she did that she asked me if we could try having sex, I said you might regret it but she kept asking, she really wanted to do it. We tried but it hurt her too much, she's a virgin. I told her to try fingering herself but she refused, she doesn't seem sexual at all.

Now one month after this is where it really started to bother me when as we were driving to my house she started talking about her friend who uses sexual innuendo and saying he must be sexually frustrated. I use sexual innuendo so it's obvious she's implying I'm sexually frustrated which is her fault because we didn't do anything sexual for a whole month. And when we got to my house I had to convince her to let me give her oral sex, it's like she wasn't at all interested. I did it to her eventually and she was acting distant, pretending like she didn't enjoy it as if she didn't want to give me the satisfaction. I asked her to give me a blowjob because I knew she wasn't going to offer. She refused and then acted surprised when I acted distant.

As we were leaving my house she said "look at this spot on my nose, you can tell I'm nearly on my period". Either she's suggesting that we won't be doing anything sexual for a while because she'll be on a period, to make me more frustrated, or that's her excuse for not being in the mood? It's like she wants me to cheat on her. I asked her when she didn't give me a blowjob why aren't you interested in doing sexual things? She said maybe once she's had sex she'll be more interested because she hasn't done it she feels like she doesn't know what she's missing. But we've done other sexual things so that makes no sense. And when I asked her the next day if she wasn't interested in sex she told me she was interested but she wanted to spend time in my arms because she hadn't seen me for 2 weeks, but we had plenty of time.

Surely her alarm bells should be ringing after we went one month without doing anything sexual, most girls would realize a guy's desire for sex would be extremely high by that point, most guys would've cheated by then..

tickle · Jan 20, 2012, 05:25 PM

She may look mature at 19, physically, but what you appear to be dealing with is immaturity, so you I think you had better back off and let her mature mentally to what you expect of her because she has no realization and you are way ahead of her.

So, basically, she is not on the same page as you sexually. Get my point.

She wants cuddling with a big teddy bear; developmentally handicapped, not in tune; hasn't talked to her mom about sex yet and has absolutely no idea what she should do or what you intend,

brotherjoe2012 · Jan 20, 2012, 05:46 PM

But she's a girl, shouldn't she get turned on regardless? Shouldn't she desire to do sexual things? With media and social influences today girls are having sex before they reach their teens. Surely at 19 she should be interested? But even if she isn't interested, isn't there a way to awaken the desire?

talaniman · Jan 21, 2012, 09:16 AM

You have life and BS all mixed up! You want some bump and grind and some wild thang, she wants the slow love and romance!

You think you are entitled to her body, she wants you to make love to her mind.

You are MTV, she is young old fashion country girl.

You are in LUST, she is looking for love.

Sorry she isn't ready to be your slut or sex object! And you obviously learned your man hood on a video game.

That's sad for a 23 year old to be so immature, and clueless. All females are NOT alike, and MOST guys don't cheat, out of frustration! Stop acting like a 14 year old horn dog fella!!