[bef160]

Well I was the idiot who got to drunk back in September and kissed a girl. Where she wanted to end it then. I told her it wasn't me I stopped drinking to show her. For Christmas she left for break to visit some close friends while I stayed here. When she got back I had to pick her up at the airport where she was hesitant to kiss me or hold my hand which is sort of uncommon for us. The rest of the night well just talking, and we went to bed.

The next morning she left to work for a few hours and when she got home told me that she wants to take a break. Of course I was distraught because I thought things were getting better with us. She tells me that she just feels like she can't do anything without me having to know. Then she says that she does care about me and wants to spend her life with me but just needs space. That she wants to he able to go out and meet new people. Wants to be able to hold someone else's hand. I'm only 22 she's 20 despite my age I do believe she's the person I want to be with for the rest of my life.

She's a very beautiful girl and always has guys trying to hit on her, and one in particular she was telling me about this guy who works across the hall from her. This guy keeps on trying g to get her to go out with her and she says no she's busy or something else but never I'm sorry I have a boyfriend. And the day before she leaves she got a text when I was next to her and it said hey this is my number. She denied it being him. But knowing the likelihood of it not being him is slim. I dropped it until she got back, where the night she told me she wanted the break, found she went out with him to dinner and who knows.

Since were both in college and we have an apartment together... So I'd just really like some help through this. Please help and thank you

[talaniman]

The first thing you find out is how this break affects your living arrangement, and finances, because somebody has to leave, and if it's a 50/50 split, that may be a problem.

Are you under a lease obligation or something? What are the particulars. Who leaves, who stays.

[ifeelya]

First things first: you soured the relationship with kissing another girl. As soon as she found that out, all honesty, trust, respect went right out the window, I'm willing to bet. One thing is she is a strong girl.
I'm sure her thoughts are this: "He kisses another girl, while being with me? Ok then, let's go see what other 'fish' in the sea is out there that won't disrespect me or that I can maybe trust?"
Who knows what strong advice her girlfriends are giving her as well. "You don't deserve that!" "You're too beautiful for him!" "Go find some guy that will treat you like a queen, and not go smooching on other girls" Oh the advise she has been hearing, I'm sure is endless!
All of us women have that support team, so my advise is this... give her the space she asks for and seeks because it sounds to me like she is moving on.
If she is willing to stay friends and talk things out than go for it, but don't push it too hard with her. Once a girl is "cheated" on it's very hard for us to "forgive and forget". Good luck bef160!