[Jonny60]

This may have been addressed a lot of times but I want to try my version too. So I met this girl at a party, one month ago, we danced a bit and so. The next day I managed to talk with her over the Internet, because I left the party a bit earlier and didn't managed to get her number or so. We talked a bit, then got on messenger, talked there, made jokes and so. I finally asked her out few days later. We met up, I drove her to a café where we stayed about 4 hours laughing, talking, having fun. She kept touching me, complimented me, I too, she was doing all those body language signs when someone likes you. I had a bit of sweat on my forehead.. She took it with her hand not saying anything else or doing some nasty faces. I took her home, we kissed simple, on cheek.

We talked the other day and shared how much fun we had and so. We went on second date.. We had again a lot of fun.. But before leaving her home, I gave her a little present. She was so surprised and happy... She kissed me on mouth.. Then when we got home she kissed me again on mouth now for like 2-3 minutes. After that she hugged me and went in the house. I was like "Oh wow...". I asked her to be my partner at a party I was attending later this week, she accepted it.

After all of this this, we kept texting, we had fun, everything was going very good till one day ago when she told me we couldn't date right now anymore. She told me, on text, that she haven't past over her last relationship and things now are building a bit faster. But I wanted to know more so we went on messenger. She said she talked with one of her friends (girl) and told her to stop talking with me but she told her that she can't because she really likes me and the time spent with me. She told me that she made plans with me and with us (as couple), that she wanted to spend more time with me, to be together, she wanted to teach me some tricks and so, she liked very much being with me, she kept repeating these lines over and over again, only that her heart/memories do not let her to get in a more serious relationship right now.

She ended a relationship, a one year one, in August, this summer, she told me that the ending was harsh and more like brutal, and that she doesn't love/care anything, anymore for the guy. But there are memories and so that keep coming about places visited etc. I was a bit confused about the reason, but she said to ask all of her friends and even her brother, that it is true. She told me if I want to remain friends and keep talking for now. She kept saying that we should stay in touch. I told her "When memories are starting to fade .. Give me a call and we can see haha".. She told me "Yes kisses". Then I said "If it will be after 80 years .. Don't know if I going to be alive but hehe"... She said "would you still answer me after 80 years ? Would you still like me and go out with me ?" The conversation was bigger but from all of this I understood that she needs time and some space and that I should step a bit back and don't be pushy or asking her for dates and so, that I should talk with her but not daily and not romantic things and so. Am I right ? Is there any hope ?

My heart tells me to wait around for a bit.
Is there any little chance for something to go good ? She gave a lot of signs that she really likes me. Am I being friend zoned ? Was this relationship going to fast for her and needs to slow down a bit ?

[tickle]

From what you describe it seems you were trying to take from O To 120 right away. Not good for some women. I think you have the right feeling for this relationship. Let her make the next move and you just linger in the background for a bit.

[Jonny60]

Thanks for your answer. Hope other people will answer too. And yes, I've decided to stay in the background, you know, live my life as usually, and try not to focus too much on her, giving her the time and space she needs. Hopefully it will go well...

[Jonny60]

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Well, 2 days after this I talked to her and told her that I give her space and time and that she should not forget how we met and how things went till that day. She accepted. So I just vanished for about one month. I just lived my life, hanging out with friends and other girls. Till, after all this time, I received from her a message on my phone. "Hey ! How do you do?". We chatted a bit, and she told me that we can see each other again. I asked her "Are you sure?".. She said "Yes". We continued to talk, not daily. She has a busy schedule at school, studying architecture and so. Time passed and in some nights I saw some check-ins on her Facebook with her friends at a club.

Next day I asked her if she still wants to date. She told me that she wants, if she didn't want to, we wouldn't talk now. From what I see, she wants to spend time only the two of us, far away from other friends and so. I do like to compliment her and she seems to enjoy it too. So last Saturday we finally met. We stayed in my car, talking about everything. I studied about body language, signs and so and she was doing a lot of them. She let me take a sip from her bottle of juice. She told me something funny and I high five'd her. She put her fingers through mine and we stayed like this for some moments, holding our hands and smiling at each other. In a moment of silence, she put her head on my shoulder, took my hand and we just watched the view.

One of her guy friends called. She answered and told him that she can't talk because she is on a date and speak later. She closed telling me: "This is how you reject someone". (Side note: she has a lot of friends )
What you say she really likes me? In the first part of the story, was I friend zoned or simply postponed? Chances of a relationship do exist?

Thanks a lot.

[palewhite]

Maybe you should get brave, take a deep breath and the next day, you're going to have a date with her, talk to her about marrying and when you talk about that subject, maybe she'll ask you if you want to marry her.

[Jonny60]

A little bit of seriousness, please ?

[grammadidi]

Judging by all your other posts I really feel that you need to move on. This gal doesn't seem to really want a relationship. There is somebody better out there who is better suited.

Hugs, Didi

[talaniman]

How old are you guys? Seems that was a mighty quick turnabout. What happened to the boyfriend?