[Twinks2388]

Hey,

So to make a long story short my fiancé and I live in different cities but his family lives in the same city as my family and I. When he's home we spend about 6 nights a week at his moms and one at mine and it's been ridiculous because his mom says she never sees him and mine is hurt because once a week? That's nothing. Anyway, when we both got back to town his mom asked what our plans were for Christmas. We said we were going to spend Christmas eve and the first half of Christmas at my parents and then the evening portion and boxing day with his family. She said it was fine because they don't have dinner until late and don't go to the island to visit family until then each year anyway.

It's Christmas eve and his mom is suddenly all upset. He didn't go to his step dads family dinner because he feels sick (has been in bed All day) and now I have his sister calling me up telling me we don't need to be together all the time. She said we should come over for breakfast because it's some special thing (yet his mom told us it was completely fine he missed it). His sister wants us to go to breakfast come back here for 4 hours to eat lunch and go back there for dinner then go to the island. I think it's childish his moms acting like this when we spend so much time there, she said it was fine to miss breakfast and she isn't the one to tell me this, his sister is.

I'm an only child and his mom has a husband and two other kids. I understand she wants to see her son but my mom wants to see both of us too, she already thinks of him as her son. Please let me know what you think!

[talaniman]

Whatever you and your boyfriend agree to is what counts.

He just has more family to please than you do it seems so please each other.

Lol, maybe both sides can have one big thing together, and save the ripping, and running to make everyone happy.

[politicalincrct]

I dealt with this same situation for 2 yrs before I finally got everyone to agree on something. This is a little late coming to you - but holiday it will offer a possible solution and it is not so uncommon. On the Eves' we celebrated at my families (or hers - we alternated), and on the day of we did the opposite. The other option would be to have one HUGE one somewhere mutual. It does, however, sound like one family is yielding and one wants everything. If his sister cannot understand that you 2 are an item now she needs to grow up. It sounds like you were blaming mom for sisters actions - I may be wrong.

[Fr_Chuck]

You and the boyfriend decide what and where you are going to go. Tell them and do it, Spend one Christmas or holiday away from all of them doing your own thing perhaps.

But it will only get worst. If you don't control it now