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    tumbleDryerLife Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 20, 2011, 11:20 AM
    Girlfriend wants a break
    So I've been with my girlfriend for 7 months now, she's unlike any girl that I have ever met, she's perfect for me, we're so alike and we have never argued, and she says I treat her so well, its because she never angers me and we are in love so I am bound to treat her like a princess.
    We were both supposed to go to uni at the start of the month, but something happened which meant I couldn't go (I got the grades) She went though, she's only 2 1/2 hours away, we texted a lot. But I went to visit her last week and she complained that it wasn't exciting, and that she wasn't excited to see me, and today she called, we spoke about us, and the relationship and things that I said yesterday. Yesterday I got a little paranoid, saw a picture of her with a guy and accused her of cheating, but apologised right away after I realised that I had been a major prick and realised what I had done as I do trust her, I just had a momentary lapse of judgement.

    But anyway she called me today, and has decided that we take a break from contact until we next see each other to see if this makes things more exciting? I'm just worried that I am going to lose her, I feel asif she is drifting away and where I have had nothing to occupy my mind and had my whole world turned on its head (Friends left for uni, I had to stay at home for another year, not what I expected) It has been nice to have a constant

    Anyway, do you think we will continue the relationship? I do love her, and would have to lose her, she says she loves me too, but just needs some space? Any answers would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Oct 20, 2011, 03:05 PM
    A smart guy would find other things to do and occupy his mind with, and not worry about losing the girl who has told him the thrill is gone.

    She is having fun exploring her world, so do some exploring yourself, and try not to have another lapse of judgement, by worrying about things you can't control.
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    Oct 20, 2011, 03:14 PM
    She just wants things to be exciting all the time. You know what that tells me. She will never be in a long time relationship. That she is not living in a realistic world. The reason relationships are not always exciting. There can be ups and downs and quite honestly if she wants things exciting all the time and they are not. There will always be troubled waters.

    Another note if you guys are so much alike and there is never any arguments. That is not a good relationship at all. The reason is that in relationships there needs to be disagreements and also need to learn how to deal with those disagreements. If you think a relationship will be merry bliss without any arguments and all of a sudden one happens the fairy tale is over and suddenly reality hits and it is like the end of the world because you guys never knew how to deal with it when that does happen.

    In ending, give her that space but my prediction in this case it will never be enough.
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    Oct 21, 2011, 04:58 AM
    You can be her friend all you want. For good.
    Just don't expect to be her boyfriend.

    Respect her need to grow.

    You grow too. Don't forget about who's important.

    Who's learning here?

    I know I am.

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