[sideofloin]

I'm 39 she's 24 (although she thinks I'm 33). I'm also half black/white and she's half Turkish/white. Her family I.E. Dad and sister hate anything black, so good start eh?
We first got together in May 2009. I wasn't very nice to her and didn't show her much affection. She was very loving though and seemed to really like me. We argued a lot though because we are both very similar and stubborn. Part of the problem was she was working 7 days a week for her Dad who is an a***hole and was always too tired for sex. I am very highly sexed and took this as rejection so we'd have lots of fights.
We split up in Nov 2010 because of this and then got back together in Dec 2010. She told me she had slept with someone during the break but that the sex was crap and she didn't want to be with him. But by Feb 2011 she told me her feelings toward me had changed. We soldiered on till Apr 2011 when she finally told me it was over. We had break-up sex in May 2011 and since then I'd been trying to get back with her but was saying I was OK with the split but couldn't we have sex anyway.

She kept saying she'd come round but on the day she'd text and says she's too busy using her family situation or she won't text at all to let me know. This obviously drove me mad and I'd then text her horrible things. She'd reply angrily saying her family situation is bad and that's why she can't come round even though she wants to. She also said the last thing on her mind was sex because of all the stress.

I'd go out and meet other girls but I didn't want to do anything with them. It just felt good being wanted. I once told her I'd slept with a girl even though I hadn't and she was round mine in a shot. I then told her I hadn't and she just left. Nothing happened between us.

She forgot my birthday in July 2011. I found out later that she'd been at a party the following week with her new guy, yet she told me she'd forgotten my birthday because of all the stress etc she's going through. She also said she'd known him since she was eight and they were just all friends at a party. Yeah right!

Anyway this goes on until Aug 2011 when she rings me and says do I still have feelings for her and that she doesn't know what she wants anymore. I tell her I don't love her and can't we just have sex. (I do want her back though but don't want to tell her this because of all the previous issues with her rejecting me). I ask her round the next day and she says OK and the next day she rings saying she's on her way but then 30mins later texts saying she's stuck at her Mum's and can't make it. I send her a horrible text. She texts me back saying she's sorry she couldn't make me happy right now. I carry on ignoring her and a week later she texts asking if we are not talking anymore. I ignore her for another 2 weeks but then text her some horrible texts and she says she doesn't feel the same for me as she used to and doesn't want a relationship with anyone.

I then go on Facebook and find a pic of her and this guy on his profile. They were at a music festival during the 2 weeks I was ignoring her. She says it's only a photo. Turns out she's been hanging with him and his friends for a month or so but says they only really got together during those 2 weeks and that haven't slept together.

I met her one last time to clear the air and she said she's very happy with him because he cares for her and understands her family situation and they get on. She seemed very loved up. (He's also a white guy so the family know and accept him. I have never been allowed to meet her Dad or sister). She also said that she went out with him a few years back but dumped him because she got bored.

She also said they do have arguments though and that whilst he works she says he has no ambition which she doesn't like. He is the total opposite to me, is not very well dressed and is thin and out of shape. Everything she told me she didn't like. I don't get it?

She then said she wanted to be friends still but I told her I don't do friends and why would I when she'd be having sex with her new man. I told her I had a date that night and she grabbed my phone and went through all the pics. I had deliberately added pics of 3 girls onto my phone.

Anyway I said I had to go and she then kissed me on the lips. I then drove off and she texted me that whoever I ended up with was a very lucky girl. I texted her after the weekend saying I had had a good weekend and that she was right for us to split and wished her all the best. She replied later that evening saying 'Take care sexy xx'
That was 2 weeks ago and I have not contacted her again. I know that she is still with him as the same pic is on his Facebook profile.

What is going on?

[talaniman]

What's going on?? You have been played like a fiddle, by a real player, player. She wasn't falling for that friends with benefits stuff, and you being the eager beaver you are, didn't take the hint. You had many and should have quit a LONG time ago.

That ALWAYS happens when you think with the wrong head. Sorry guy, but I hope you learned.

[TrueFaith]

What a mess

The ending was good though leave it like that
Go no contact that relationship sounded anything but healthy
It's Ike eating 7 big mac a day

I hope you learnt a lot about yourself. During that relationship and I hope the next girl. You find won't be punished for the last girls mistakes

[vanheart]

The whole thing is disgusting & wrong.

"I tell her I don't love her and can't we just have sex."

Nice one. Boo hoo.

I agree, 2 players, playing each other.

Read back through your post.

"I know that she is still with him as the same pic is on his Facebook profile. "
There you go. It isn't you.

[mmresd]

What is your problem? She has broken up with you... Why does it matter who she is hanging out with or anything else. You need to accept that this relationship is over and move on. What she does with her life is none of your business.