[Loveisblind24]

So me and my ex were dating for about a year and a half and I thought for sure he was the one . We had talked about marriage and kids all the time and thought this was the life for us . Then towards the middle of the relationships things got rough. He caught me talking to my ex and I caught him talking to his plus another girl he used to like . The difference was me and my ex didn't care about each other it was more of a hey how are u and kept it moving. My ex by the way works at his job. Him and his ex girlfriend were dating for two years and he told me how she cheated on him and was so Hurt and hated her by why still contact her then ? They had broken up 2 yrs before he met me. He cried to me told me he was sorry for contacting them but I just couldn't get it off my mind .

From then on we fought almost every other day and it was getting worse . On top of all of this his cousins which is is super close with started to hate me because they saw how upset he always was and that caused me to have problems with them because they didn't know me . I can admit I was a little controlling and jealous but until I found out he contacted his ex I was never that way .

I left for college a while after and it was hard on us both in a rocky relationship and now me 2 hrs away . He began driving to me every other day crying and screaming that he didn't want to lose me and I didn't know what to do . I loved him so much but this became a loving relationship to nothing but tears and arguments all the time .

Finally after dating a year we broke up. The fighting was too much for both of us to handle anymore. He didn't like my friends I didn't like him family or friends and nothing was in our favor . A month later we both decided to put the past in the past start fresh and make it work . After that we were great for the next few months went on vacation together and even talked about moving in together it was amazing like when we first met .

Then one day bam ! We went to a bar and was having a good time and he got mad that I went on the dance floor and he didn't want to go . I didn't dance with anyone else just myself and everyone around me . He made a scene and we left and I told him I can't do this anymore. We had been great but the jealously was still inside him . We argued all the way to the train and I just needed to walk away . I left and realized he had my phone my money everything and I could not find him, we were in NYC and people are everywhere ! I finally find him he's crying and upset and tried to talk to me asking why I don't love him and where is the girl he fell in love with because I was so mad I wanted nothing to do with him. So I made up with him realizing the fight was stupid and let's drop it .

We get to the car and begin arguing again. I exploded . I started talking about his family and him and had just began yelling so many things I didn't mean but I was mad and hurt at what he was saying I felt I had to defend myself somehow . He drove me home I told him to never talk to me again and that was it. The next day I apologized for the horrible things I was saying and if we could meet up and talk but he refused. He said the things I was saying was so hurtful he never wanted to talk to me again. A few days went by he was out drinking and sending me nasty mean drunk messages . I knew he was just upset but I couldn't believe what he was saying . I begged him to just calm down and talk to me . 3 weeks later we got together and talked but it was a failure there was nothing but screaming . By the end of the night we we're laughing and talking about all the good times and ending up kissing the rest of the night .

He told me the next day he regret kissing me because he knew we could never work and he didn't want the pain of being intimate with me knowing it wasn't going to work . I was hurt . For the next few weeks we tried being friends and it killed me . One day I found out he got drunk and kissed a random girl in the a club 2 days after we broke up and I broke up. I called him and text him screaming at him and saying mean things . How could he?

TO make it short we argued everyday and one day his mom called me . He's 22 by the way. Told me to stop texting her son if I can't say anything nice because she sees him upset everyday . She started telling me what to do with my relationship but she knew nothing about our relationshp. She said she was tired of hearing him scream and cry for the last few months of our relationship and we need to move on. I couldn't believe his mom got involved . A week after that we tried being friends again and said maybe in a few months or year we could try again once we calm down. I couldn't take it anymore being friends with someone u love watching him go out with other girls and still call and text you kills . I told him either be with me or stop contact wit me all together . He told me we would work it out in time so I took that as He was still focused on me and not anyone else . He told me he still loved me but not in love anymore because of all the fighting and until I became the girl he met things were going to stay this way.

We began hanging out and it was great. First time I had hung out wit him in now what was 2 months . But he wouldn't kiss me or anything and I respected it but I couldn't deal with it I loved him. I told him this was just a game I can't wait for him and make up this mind and we began to argue again. Our arguments aren't calm there is screaming yelling crying horrible things being said and hard for anyone to handle or watch . We both decided to never contact each other again. Hours later him and his mom showed up at my house and she told me to neve call him again and he just stood there .my mom came out and told them to leave me alone he was just at fault . I couldn't believe things have gotten this out of hand with someone who was going to be my husband one day, so I thought !

So my question is that happened 2 days Ago . I'm pretty sure he hates me now and part of me feels bad because we were so in love and everyone saw it and we ended up in a horrible situation. I still love him which I know I shouldn't but I do. Will he ever talk to me again. I know I hurt him so much and he got tired of always fighting for me when I would always break up wit him but I do things out of anger I don't mean. Do we ever have a chance to regain our love after it has gotten so bad ?

[talaniman]

You both are forcing things way too much and neither of you have the self control it takes to be cool, calm, and collected, and actually talk it out.

This relationship is poison, and you should just leave each other alone. It will never be the way it was in the beginning. Never.

[Loveisblind24]

Could we ever be friends again? We fell in love because the conversation was so great and of course the sexual chemistry followed. We were always able to talk thing out but that soon changed. Why ?

[talaniman]

Things change in a relationship, and couples break up, just as people get married and divorced, because things change. Many get married many times, and break up. It happens because people change all the times.

You will meet many people you have chemistry with, and can talk to, its just you too are young and have no self control yet. Happens all the time as we live, and learn.

Leave each other alone so you can both be happy, and grow. Who knows what the future will bring.