[Woodpecker4444]

A little about myself I'm a guy in my mid twenties and have experience with girls, I have a lot of close girlfriends and can understand girls more than most guys can.
I have been in a few meaningless relationships and have had one night stands, it's been my choice of living because I knew I can't get hurt by not getting attached until I met this girl.
I met her a few moths ago at her work place, I was a regular costumer. I really liked her looks, everything about her was perfect in my eyes, body, face, her attitude and sense of humor, her voice, everything we both had similar personalities. After chatting for a bit she mentioned a boyfriend and immediately I stopped what was going on in my head because I don't hit or flirt with girls who have boyfriends, it just isn't my style, never liked drama and wouldn't want to cause it in other people's lives.
A couple months later I got a chance to talk with her after work and now it was ex boyfriend, were chatting and laughing and she's picking on me, even my co workers are telling me that they think she likes me. At the end of the night she writes her digits down and gives them to me.
We start to chat here and there and she's always getting back to me. We started hanging out and it wasn't dates or anything but just casualties hanging and she came to a bunch of my friends houses and me to her friends parties and houses. This girl is a couple years younger than me.
We always had a blast no matter what we did, we both love to party and we did a lot of that it was great. As were driving she puts her hand on top of mine and I can tell that she likes my company and most importantly me. I've never let myself get attached to girls but this one was different she made me feel good and I loved spending time with her and being with her. She opened up to me about her ex and told me how badly he treated her, how he was abusive to her, emotionally and physically and I comforted her told her I could never imagine doing those things to someone I love. At this point it's clear that we are attracted to one another and it's obvious to both parties.
One night were hanging out, she sat on my lap as were smoking a cigarette and we go in the bedroom we lay down and one thing leads to another she starts making out with me and as the result we fooled around. We didn't have sex but did everything else pretty much. I don't need to get into details we all know:p
At this point were hanging out together pretty frequently but not acting as boyfriend and girlfriend and that's fine because I know she got off a long term relationship and she has issues to deal with.
So after a month or so goes by after we hooked up I put together a very well written message basically saying that we should give dating a try and basically told her about how we are so similar in personalities and that we are obviously physically attracted and both have a great time together and that I know about her long term relationship and that we can take it slow and see where it takes us.
She replied and said how what I said mean a lot to her and basically agreed to what I said but said because of what's happened in the past she feels as though she isn't ready to be emotionally involved and that it wouldn't be fair to me if she can't give her self to the relationship. She said she wouldn't want to loose me because of that.
Deep down I knew that was going be the answer but I decided to ask anyway because I really wanted to know the truth because I really like this girl and like being with her and it's not usual for me to feel this way, or haven't in a long time I should say.
So I told her that I understand and if in the future she ever felt ready my feelings for her wouldn't change and that I would t abandon her because of her answer to me, and I haven't.
We still hang out all the time and have just as much fun and even though I can't have her I feel as though I stayed friends with her in hopes that one day when she's dealt with her emotions we can give getting serious a go. I feel like I'm remaining friends with her because of that reason. So I did some thinking and got over the feelings or am able to control my feelings.
What bothers me about the way things are going is that when I'm with her and were out as friends or in groups of people girls will sometimes approach me and start talking. I have a charming and friendly personality and start to have a conversation and make people laugh, it's just how I am. However she gets jealous and asks me if I met my new girlfriend and she says it in a jealous way. It's happened a few times. I've moved on and even though I'd still date her because I'd rather be with her than another girl I have no problem being just friends because of my experience in the past I didn't allow myself to get too emotionally involved with this girl simply because things could go the way they have.
It's not fair to me that she acts like that even though she made her decision and gave me a response after I told her how I felt.
If I don't message her she messages me, she likes me being a part of her life and vice versa.
She has invited me to nights out and I haven't responded because I haven't seen the message on my phone and she has repeatedly asked me and seemed upset I didn't go. I know she likes my company and I like hers. With that being said.

A summary real quick here.
I know she likes me and she knows I like her. Every time were out I treat her like a lady. I always offer to pay for things because I make more money than she does and were having fun and that's what money is for.

So my question is this. Is there a chance by the way she acts that we could one day date and have a relationship? I am everything her exes haven't been and I'd treat her like a queen because it's how I am and would never do the things they have done to her.
Luckily I know her well now after a few months of hanging out all the time and have made that decision. However I feel as though I'm killing my chances when I talk to other girls and she gets jealous but yet she has made her decision.

I'm a friendly and engaging person and I wouldn't change that for anyone.
Thanks.

[talaniman]

Change nothing. She may be a knockout for you but she still wants her cake and eats it too. Having you around to have fun with but no commitment, or strings attached, and of course she get jealous, as she may see you as her own personal friend when she needs one, and after a break up she needed one.

As long as you keep it real, and don't change YOUR program, then you will be okay and in control of yourself.

Give her credit, knowing she isn't ready for what you want, a full time boyfriend/girlfriend thing. But I think you both play with fire with the physical stuff. Lust with no clarity or agreement often confuses things, and makes being normal complicated.

Like being plugged into an electrical outlet, powerful, intense feelings, added to attraction. What a rush, but you have done well keeping a healthy perspective so far, keep it up Sstay in control and don't get carried away, or in too deep you can't get out.

[sexy86]

This may sound really weird, but the whole time I was reading this you sound like the guy I'm currently dating right now. Anyway as of the situation that you are in, give her some time and if she doesn't come around, move on and find another girl... whatever you find good in her, you might find it in someone else and 90% of the time you find it in another girl plus more. Best of luck to you and you sound so much like the guy I'm currently with right now, your past and the history behind this story. It's like my story right now and oh boy it's very complicated.