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zadlizah · Jul 10, 2011, 11:33 PM

I had a wonderful relationship with a Japanese lady. We had been going out for almost 6 months and enjoyed our company very much. I really loved her and was even planning to marry her. We never had arguments and I was always a sweetheart to her.

Then in early March I messaged and called her on her mobile for 2 days, but she did not respond at all. I got restless and wanted to know what happened. So after 2 days I decided to search for her office phone number through the Internet since I know her companys name. I called the office around lunch time, and the receptionist forwarded the call to her office desk. I was very happy to hear her voice and we just talked less than a minute because I did not want to bother her at work.

Then later at night, I managed to get her mobile but she was so super angry about the office call I made. She told me to never call her office again, and then later told me to stop calling her mobile and text her; in other words we should cut all communications. She threatened to report to the police if I ever contact her in any form.

I was so shocked by her behavior. I did not expect her to break up immediately just over an office phone call. I know she might want to separate office and private life, but she could have given me a warning and I will never call her office again. Mind you, I have sent her flowers to her office for her birthday and Valentines before and she was very happy. If she really wanted a separation between work and private life, she should be very mad about the flowers too.

I am so baffled. Is it just me or is she just being a drama queen? I have been apologizing a lot to her but nothing seems to work. After 3 months she finally accepted my apologies but is not willing to meet or contact me at all. What do you think? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

amicon · Jul 11, 2011, 12:21 AM

Her feelings changed is what happened and she was too much of a coward to break up with you -so she took the silent route hoping you'd go away quietly.

Do as she asks now-no more flowers,messages -no contact at all.

This is over.

talaniman · Jul 11, 2011, 01:40 PM

ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to amicon again.

Amicon is dead on I feel as she was a coward to ignore you for two days, or be honest with you about her change in feelings, which is unreasonable.

Make no mistake though, it is over, as lousy as it was done.

ballengerb1 · Jul 11, 2011, 01:58 PM

I agree and further think you never really knew all that much about the real person. How close were you and how much face to face contact did you have/ Only asking because you did not initilly even know her office number

nasilele · Jul 18, 2011, 09:11 AM

I'm sorry but they are all right. There are some people who struggle with communication and break up with people in the oddest ways for the oddest reasons or without reason at all. Either way, it's best to let this one go and try and move on. My brother sent his girlfriend flowers at work all the time, now they're married; not because of the flowers though, lol. If she's not struggling with communication and she was just playing hard to get, she would not have you begging for 3 months, that is just unnatural. I think she would like it to be over with you and her but you're smothering her. Be glad she accepted your apology and leave her alone. She is not likely to come to her sense with you begging at her feet. Often people need someone completely out of the picture to realize if it was all a mistake or they're on the right path. Right now, neither of you are making progress.