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    raspberrytea423 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 23, 2011, 12:38 AM
    Why is he being like this?
    I thought I really knew my best friend. Ever since he broke up with his girlfriend last summer, we've been extremely close. He would text me all day everyday, compliment me, try to be by me... but when I confessed my feelings for him were more than friends, he turned the cold shoulder and said that makes him uncomfortable and that he could never see himself being romantically interested in me down the line. He said the best thing for us to do would remain friends and I agreed, not wanting to end a great friendship because of hurt feelings. As our friendship progressed, he started to change in how he spoke to me. Our conversations were no longer strictly PG and he often expressed that he found me very attractive and wanted to sleep with me. We didn't. Now, just today, I found out that he NEVER broke up with his girlfriend. He doesn't know that I know yet. He's been playing me this whole time and his friends went along with it. I can't believe that this is the same boy who made me smile after my harsh breakup, held me in his arms until I fell asleep and just petted my hair, or listened to me into insane hours of the night, going on and on about my art. He's shared pieces of himself with me that he hasn't trusted with anyone else and I've shared even more with him. I don't want our friendship to end like this but I can't forgive him using me like this.. He knew I still had feelings for him and he turned it against me... I don't know what to do...
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    amicon Posts: 6,066, Reputation: 1911
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    Jun 23, 2011, 03:29 AM

    You ignore him and heal from his betrayal-he wasn't a friend and you deserve better.

    Keep busy-make better friends and leave him and his so called friendship in the past.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Jun 23, 2011, 12:18 PM

    It doesn't matter about any feelings you had, or any feelings you think he had, he is NOT your friend, as friends don't lie, cheat, or purposely deceive another friend. Whether you like it or not, this fake friendship is truly over, and the farther you are from him, and his friends, the better off you will be.

    Very sorry this happened to you.
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    Jul 6, 2011, 10:09 AM
    This guy was trying to have his cake and eat it too so to speak. He basically wanted to see if he could have 2 girls at once in my opinion. He betrayed you as a friend by lying to you about the girlfriend and probably lying to her as well. As unfortunate and hurtful as this is and it will hurt, you must cut all contact because he will take advantage of you again if he has the chance. This is not a friend or a guy you want to have any relationship with and there are guys that will treat you how you deserve to be treated. I am sorry this happened to you.

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