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    Jun 8, 2011, 11:07 PM
    Rebound Relationship... will it work?
    My best friends whom I care very deeply about as a friend and who I secretly love (he does not know), has just left his wife of 14 yrs for a 20 yr old girl he met about 4 weeks ago. The marriage was not good from the start. He stuck around because she got pregnant and she resented him from day one. He stayed in a verbally abusive relationship for years with her and finally decided to throw in the towel.

    Over the last two years in reconnected with a "friend/girlfriend" from years ago who always had a strong connection and bond but could never make a go of things primarily due to distance. During this reconnection, they began what could be termed an emotional relationship for both of them. Everyday conversation, constant texting, eventually secret meetings, and gift exchanges. This relationship began to wear on his already not so good situation at home and resulted in him getting in trouble with both women at the same time for the same things... he was on the phone too much when with the wife and not on the phone enough with the friend... It all became too much and she became more and more verbally abusive... then out of the blue, he contacts a local business to schedule an appt for a massage and the therapist begins flirting with him and him back with her...

    SO... now over the course of a month, he left the wife, the friend/gf, and is exchanging I love you's with this new girl who just turned 20... he is 32... Is that relationship going to last? He has children and is a very involved father? It's hurting me to see him be so stupid because I have cared for him all along and he can't see it. She is a beautiful young girl with hundreds and hundreds of sensual pictures plastered allover her FB profile... they are already considering moving in together and she is planning the fairytale... What in the world happened?
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    Jun 8, 2011, 11:46 PM

    He's running from one mess to a new one is what's happening.

    That's his mess though and you should leave him to it.

    You know for a fact that this friend of yours is capable of lying and cheating,so let him grow up on his own and find someone who is an adult-this guy's bad news.
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    Jun 9, 2011, 03:26 PM

    A guy with his troubles needs a QUALIFIED nurse to boost his ego, and provide female companionship. Love has nothing to do with it, so just be glad you didn't volunteer, or let him know you would be willing to volunteer for that job.

    Hmmm. You may have been blinded all these years, but you could have been the resentful wife, who got cheated on by the old G/F, only to get dumped for the fine young thing! Which of these ladies would you trade places with??

    See how lucky you are?

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