[meeche21]

Its been a year today, since my ex broke up with me and I'm still wondering why I cannot get over him. There hasn't been a day where I haven't thought about our relationship or about him. Whenever I think about him I get anxiety.
We dated for almost a year and it was really great, everything that I wanted in a relationship we went through a lot together, as I was there for him when he had some serious health problems.

I really felt I was going to marry this guy, he treated me well and he was everything I ever wanted. I felt like I was apart of his famly, and apart of me still feels like I will always be apart of his family just because of so much I and his family went through together.

I don't understand how a person can still have so much emotion towards this after a whole year. Its not like I sat around and dwelled on it. I mean, I went to college, tried dating again, was in a pretty good relationship and after all this I still upset.
I don't know if I still have feelings for him or what. The guy I was just in a relationship I have strong feelings for. And I think him and I are better suited for each other then the ex.

I wish there was something that would make the ex go away completely, even so my mind doesn't think about him anymore. Its hard because his family are always going to be around me since I still talk to his sister, and I'm still Facebook friends with his cousins and aunts.

[amicon]

When a relationship ends,we most often need to say goodbye to the ex's family as well.

This is what's holding you back I think.

Constant updates on an ex tends to keep people stuck in the past.

I would distance myself from his family and make new friends.

[talaniman]

What do you expect when you are still around people, places and things that trigger old memories and feelings?? Unless you make changes that remove those triggers from your life, he will continue to haunt your life.

If you cannot make those changes, then you have to understand where they are coming from (associations that are tied to him), and cope with those feelings in a better way.

[vanheart]

Doesn't sound like you ever allowed yourself to accept this breakup as truth or reality.

To cut ALL ties.

You really have to do that in order for you to move on.

Blood is thicker than water & his family is his, not yours.

I have a sneaking suspicion that you thought that staying close with them will win him back.

Isn't going to happen.

Start living your life w/o him, them and any other people that he has ties to.

Then, you can really move on & find your own freedom again.

Don't waste another year. What's done is done.

[mmresd]

If you want to get away completely then you are going to have to keep yourself from seeing or hearing anything from him completely. Which includes you not talking to his family either, at least for a while. It seems as if you think about him ALL the time, how can you expect to not think about someone who you don't ever stop thinking about? Just go no contact and keep trying to live your life, it will eventually go away one day.

Good luck,
Javi