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    Mar 29, 2011, 08:16 PM
    Should I move on or wait?
    My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and 8 months. We're both in college and he's been stressing out a lot lately because he takes really difficult courses. We use to see each other practically everyday but since this semester its been school, work, then homework for him so I only see him on the weekends. I've been very supportive and everything. Well two weeks ago he decided we needed a "break". He assured me that he loved me with all his heart and that he didn't have his eye on anyone else. We haven't spoken in these 2 weeks. Did he let me down easy? Or should I wait? Which is not fair for me to have to wait.
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    Mar 29, 2011, 11:28 PM
    Did he give you a reason as to why he wanted a break? Typically , asking for a break is usually meant to soften the blow of a breakup. He is either in it to win it with you or he's not and you can't just sit around waiting indefinitely for him.
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    Mar 29, 2011, 11:29 PM

    I think after two weeks of limbo,you ask him if he really meant break up-as 'breaks' most often do.

    Don't hang around waiting for somebody to make there mind up-ever.
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    Mar 30, 2011, 09:48 AM
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    He didn't really give me a reason. He led me on to believe he wanted to get back together in the future but I don't know how long that is. 5 months ago we had a fight and broke up for a week and got back together. When we had this talk about him wanting a break he mentioned that he has felt this ever since the 1st time we broke up. He said he thinks we got back together too soon. Which I couldn't believe he has felt this way for so long and I didn't know. He also mentioned things just aren't the way they use to be. Duhh because we're in college now and can't see each other all the time.
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    Mar 30, 2011, 09:55 AM

    Move on, repeat.
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    Mar 30, 2011, 08:56 PM

    Since you have no way of knowing when he will change his mind, then you move on, and take this as the break up it is.

    Even if he tries to make contact, don't take him back, or even be available for more of his BS!!
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    May 4, 2011, 11:30 PM
    Throw away or send?
    Okay so my first boyfriend and I recently just broke up. We dated for almost 2 years. He said we were growing apart and shortly after dumping me he obviously has moved on because he is dating someone else. I'm trying my best to forget him. Of course I miss him like crazy but I know it wasn't meant to be. I'm trying my best to move on. I think I just got past of the whole anger stage. Anyway, mothers day is coming up and I wanted to send his mother a card saying that I really appreciate all that she has done for me. I'm upset that I will never see her again because she was a really sweet person and cared about me a lot. My friend didn't think it was a good idea at all to send her the card because I just need to move on and forget it; that its over and there's nothing I can do. I just thoughtd it would be nice but she may have a point. What should I do? Send the card or just throw it away along with all my memories?
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    May 5, 2011, 01:31 AM

    Your friend does have a point-I wouldn't send it.

    When we break up with someone it most often means leaving their families in the past as well.

    I hope you're healing and starting to enjoy your life again.
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    May 5, 2011, 11:09 AM

    For a while, I would leave him, and his family and friends alone. Let everyone heal and get a better perspective. I am sure they will understand.
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