[BeYond ConfuSed -_-]

I have a big problem... well actually.. a HUGE problem.. I'm a student.. a freshmen and I have a girlfriend.. we've been together for a year and a half.. from some of the advice I've heard I hear that it's my yung years and all that I have to do is keep on searching.. I have been searching, and I KNOW she's the one, we talk about marriage all the time I practically consider her my wife but lately.. I don't know she tells me she loves me she used to act like it. For the past two weeks it's been different. She doesn't show it and I don't know hat to do. Advice please?

[Skell]

Well yes I think you may have a problem. One I see is that you think this girl is your life. Not good. No one should ever make there significant other their life. They are a part of your life. Not your whole life.

You need to have other interests, other friends. Do other things in your life that don't involved her. Less is more even at your stage in the relationship.

Secondly when you are young you have to realise that it is just a sad fact that people change and want different things. You don't have any hard evidence that this girl doesn't love you anymore but it may very well be the case. Go and read my story, and the many others here. There are lots of cases where young people thought they were going to be together forever but it just didn't happen for a variety of reasons.

If I were you id pull back a little. You don't need to smother her and tell her much you love her and want to be with her forever. If she is having doubts I promise you doing that will not change her mind. I made that mistake myself.

The best thing you can do is step back a little and do your own thing. Look after yourself and evaluate what you want. Give her some time to think! It sounds like she may need it.

Doing this won't change her mind if she wants out, but smothering her will only push her further away!

Just take a week or two and hang with your friends. Do some fun things and begin to realise again that you can't make her your whole life. If she contacts you just be fun and happy and let her know that you are out having a good time with your buddies and will see her again soon!

Good luck and keep us posted!

[s_cianci]

Has she recently experienced any kind of life-altering event? 1 1/2 years should be enough time to know whether something is right and a little too late to be having second thoughts. Now if you'd only been together 1 1/2 months, that'd be a different story. I think you're going to have to confront her directly about her sudden turnabout. Tell her how her behavior is making you feel and listen to her response (or lack thereof.) If this appears that it's going to be a permanent change then you may have to rethink this relationship.

[talaniman]

After a year and a half you should be able to talk about anything, honestly and openly. It's a bad sign in my book that you can't know each other well enough to communicate better. Some one may not be listening.

[mackenzie haskill]

Ask her don't be afraid tell her she's been acting different and see wats going on it will work trust me ima girl

[burstbubble]

Talk to her she may have something on her mind it may not even be your fault it could be something upsetting her whatever it is just sit down and do not pressure her into saying something she doesn't want to. But if its affecting you both then the matter needs to be addressed. But you have been together a long time so should know each other well enough to know if something is wrong and sounds like you do.

[diya]

With situations and circumstances, minds change and I won't shocked if someone you liked, changed her mind about you. Honestly, communication is the only key to resolving issues that linger on in your mind. Be prepared for any kind of response, that way the unexpected won't baffle you...

[talaniman]

If it were me I would stop assuming and just tell her how you feel and ask her what's up?