It all boils down to communication.
This seems to have hit you out of left field, with no warning. That to me, is a sign of a person who either chooses to remain silent, or a partner who doesn't listen.
While it is true, and I agree that he had likely been thinking and planning on leaving the relationship for some time, it puts you at a disadvantage. Had you been aware, or had he talked things out, maybe between the two of you, positive changes could have happened before he made the final decision.
If he was that unhappy with himself, with you, or with the relationship, he didn't bother to let you know, and you had no way of trying to mend what could have been wrong.
That he has actually gone now, doesn't leave you much to do to address anything. He had options, but had only one goal obviously, and he is gone.
My advice to you is to not beat yourself up with trying to figure this all out. He gave you no insight, or indicated that he was having problems with, or within the relationship, or any information at all in order to inform you what was going on.
I'd let this one go, and be grateful you didn't have a couple of kids and a big mortgage with him.
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