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    mr_yeah Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 9, 2010, 02:34 PM
    My ex and a are still sleeping together... am I getting played?
    We've been broken up for three months and a lot has happened. However we do everything as if we are still a couple.Still say I love you, talk daily,have sex and fall asleep right next to each other almost every night. The only difference is literally the title. Ive brought up that fact and tried to compromise but it all ways ends with "it is what it is" and I don't know if were going to get back together.She has openly told me that she misses me and hurts from us separating and agrees and feels the same way I do. Im not seeing anyone else and neither is she. Her actions contradict things... it makes no sense to me...
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    Oct 9, 2010, 03:56 PM
    First off have you guys talked about dating again? If you have not the issue maybe that you both feel comfortable with each other rather than with someone else. Now I'm assuming that you want her back because all of these actions stirred up your feelings. Have you talked to her about this sort of thing?
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    Oct 9, 2010, 07:31 PM

    Dude you are broken up in name only, and if you need a title then tell her that, and if she can't make a commitment to the relationship by helping you define it, then leave. Why should you be in limbo until she gets tired of you? Then she will leave any way right?
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    Oct 13, 2010, 11:06 PM
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    Thanks for your response. You have it right on the head. Im just not willing to wait anymore or put in so much and not get anything on it. Thank you so much again.
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    Oct 13, 2010, 11:09 PM
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    Thanks for your response. Her friends are completely different than mine. My friends say I'm happy with whatever makes you happy and ill support you. Her's constantly rag and will not be her friend if she associates with me. So you ist complicated
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    Oct 13, 2010, 11:12 PM
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    Thus why it "is what it is". Which to me is beyond stupid cause there is no difference. If my friends were to talk to or at me like that I wouldn't be calling them friends. I don't see any change until she tells her friends to mind their business
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    Oct 13, 2010, 11:12 PM

    Also, these actions aren't helping either one of you out. It's only confusing the situation.

    Either you're going to be a couple, or you're not.

    If not, then tell her "it is what it is, buh bye."

    Good luck.
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    Oct 14, 2010, 04:47 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Why should you be in limbo until she gets tired of you? Then she will leave any way right?
    Exactly.
    I once believed the title didn't mean anything. Plus, we were living together so we just kept sleeping together. Then one day, out of nowhere, he told me he had a girlfriend and he was going to move in with her soon so we should start packing. He said it shouldn't matter, "since we weren't in a relationship anyway." (Seriously!)

    Long story short, don't wait until it happens. Are you being played? Seems like only your "ex" can answer.

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