[lala67]

Me and my ex dated 2 years, and have been on and off about getting back together about 5months, but about a month ago he told me that he was tired of trying to work things out and he had just started talking to a co-worker. A week later they were in a relationship. I was devastated, I cried and begged for him not to move on but it didn't do anything but push him away more. He said he will always love me and be in love with me but blames me for our situation. I am so confused, we are eachothers first loves and he adored me, but now it seems he really likes this new girl.. ALREADY. HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE? And she is 2 years older then him and haves a 3 year old (we are only 20). It seems like she's a rebound, but he doesn't really fall for girls that easily. Should I move on or is there hope for me and him?

[Fr_Chuck]

You were not together for 5 months and discussing getting back together, what ever the issues were that keep you from being together most likely where too much to over come.

If you cared and loved him as much as you say you did, then you should have figured a way to work things out before

[Devorameira]

Sounds like he's truly moved on, so that's exactly what you need to do too.

From your description, it doesn't sound like your relationship was ever a relationship made in Heaven, so why not give yourself some time to heal, then get out there and find that special someone?

[wonderlife]

I don't know if that girl is a rebound but you should move on. He made it clear enough that he no longer wants you or wants to works things out. I think it's not fair nor sensible to put a blame only on you for the end of the relationship. And do you still want someone who keep jumping in and out of your life? If he truly loves and cares as he said, he won't leave you for other girl. Actions speack louder than words. Don't cry and don't beg for someone who doesn't want to be with you. Even if we can't eat dignity and pride, but having it will make you feel good about yourself. I was dumped (hard) as well but I just gave my ex what he wanted and I simply agreed with him (even I felt so devastated inside). No point trying to keep someone who wants to walk away.

It's hurt I know. Please stay strong, hold your head high and start the process of your own healing, go NC, read the stickies and other threads on this board, it really helps as you will see lot of people with similar experiences. We all finally get through it!

[talaniman]

He has moved on, so its important that you do to.

[answerme_tender]

Does it really matter if she is just a rebound. He is with someone else. He walked away even after you lowered your pride to beg him not too. Im sorry your going through this, and believe me I know how hard it is, my ex-fiance did the same thing, it was like a lite switch, he just shut off. He was in another relationship just two weeks later, and still with her and its been a year. Now what I didn't know at the time, and the present doesn't know, he only last about two years in a relationship, but not my problem anymore. But I will give you heads up, my ex tried to keep his options open, but still emailing,etc with me. I allowed him to keep my hopes up that he would come back. I had to finally put a stop to that, so I could really heal and move on. So don't let him try and use you that way, its just makes it worse.
You need to get out with friends,family. If your in college, try taking one class just for the heck of it. Take up a sport, or hobbie.
Read some of the post on this site and advice others have been given, it does help. The no contact rules and of course Talaniman Rules to live by are very sound. Good luck and don't think twice to just post your frustrations when you need too.

[vanheart]

Don't spend any more time worrying about him. That's just a waste of energy. What's the point?

He can say all he wants not to hurt your feelings, but he's moved on, has someone else. Get it?

Don't talk to him anymore or try to investigate.

Hes not the only guy in this world.