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woodsmith06 · Jun 7, 2010, 01:44 PM

Hello my name is Manny. Pardon for the length. My girlfreind and I have been together for about two and a half years and recently she seems to be spending less time together. She and I are going off to college and will only be a few hours apart so unsurprisingly her parents are spending more time with her. But generally she makes it seem as if she is busy most the time so we hardly spend any time together. When we set up times to see each other she now asks to see me later in the day and thus we have less time to spend with her. When we meet up sometimes I am a upset because I set my whole day for the event and I always try set a good four hours with her but she only and her family only seems to find two hours to be enough. I am trying to balance my responsibilities and our relationship but I don't think she is doing enough. I do get upset easily because she says things that I believe are hurtful but she says that I miss- interpreate their meanings. I also get even more upset because she openly starts a conversation with, "Why are you crabby?" or other blunt remarks about my behavior (when she is the one who is caused the rise of my negative behavior)when we meet up. Pritty soon I feel that I am going to be having to do most of the heavy lifting in our relationship when she and I are at college because I don't think she will be able to have the courage to make the trip to see me. Or she could be too "busy" with things and not be able to see me for that month (we said we would meet up once a month). Hell I have to balance a job, paying for cell phone, transportation, food, clouthing, detergent, and college myself and I WILL MAKE THE TIME. She has aid from her parents; I don't. I never like taking the easy way out with problems but If I don't find some sort of solution to these problems than I am going to have to end the relationship. Please I could use some advise. (Please write more than just two or three sentances)

JoeCanada76 · Jun 7, 2010, 02:19 PM

First you can not really tell us how much to write or not to write. Honestly in this case it only is a couple sentence answer. Yes, I read your whole post.

Now a quote from your own post. If I don't find some sort of solution to these problems than I am going to have to end the relationship. Please I could use some advise. (Please write more than just two or three sentences)

You think it is all her, but when you always react negatively and then try to blame her for YOUR BEHAVIOR then why would she want to be around you??

It is not only YOU that need to create a solution it is both of you together, if you're a couple.

To end, You answered your own question with an answer and will quote you again.

If I don't find some sort of solution to these problems than I am going to have to end the relationship.

It is time to end the relationship if you feel that way.

woodsmith06 · Jun 7, 2010, 02:31 PM

Thank you

talaniman · Jun 10, 2010, 09:24 AM

Sorry guy, but you seem to be only looking at things from your view, and not hers, and her families.

She is leaving them, and already your possessive when you should be understanding. You want 4 hours, she only has 2. Okay, enjoy the 2 hours without the hissy fits YOU are having and spoiling what time you do have.

Trust me, as you already know, it gets even harder after she actually starts college. But you are already mad and upset about what may happen later, and that's a very negative sourpuss attitude to have in my opinion.

Cherish the quality of the time you do have, and enjoy it. If you can't, then you shouldn't even be in a relationship with her. It's that simple.