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May 9, 2010, 08:44 PM
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Missing ex. Broke up almost 2 months ago
We never fought. The first 3 months were great, then the last 2 months I kind of got too casual and failed to do the things I should have, like show more affection. It was mainly because of stuff outside of the relationship affecting me. I discussed this with her.
At the end, she stopped messaging me online and when I took notice I saw she went to the status, single on okcupid as well. It was a waste of a great relationship, we are so compatible otherwise and admire a lot about each other. Since then I have cut all contact as I should have.
I have sent emails appologizing and showing my affection, saying I've learned from this experiece. I even sent her flowers. She hasn't replied. I feel bad that I neglected her. I sent a last mail recently, saying I was doing OK but still felt the same as told her I said all I could and that I can't do much more, but am glad I tried as hard as I could.
Lately, its not getting any better. I dream of her a lot too. All I can do is hope.. hope for a email from her. I sent maybe 5 since the breakup, but have stopped. I was thinking of maybe sending soemhting casual and upbeat in July or late June.
She's a sweet girl. We were always faithful to each other. I really feel like it desevres another shot. I never suspected she was upset the last few monhths because she was always happy and smiling... then I was surprised when it ended.
Thanks for reading and anything any of you can add to help.
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Dating & Teen Expert
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May 10, 2010, 06:39 PM
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It sounds as though she has moved on. Maybe you two were just not a match.
You may never know why. What you should do now is stop trying to contact her. Don't send anymore e-mails.
Get on with your life. Go out with friends, do what you used to do before her.
As time passes it will get easier.
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Ultra Member
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May 11, 2010, 06:16 AM
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Stop torturing yourself. You broke up and she's moved on, now you need to do the same.
It's completely over so stop contacting her. If she wanted to be back with you she would have responded.
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Ultra Member
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May 11, 2010, 07:09 AM
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Maybe I am just not seeing the entire picture here, but it looks like you were only together for 5 months. I don't consider that a relationship and it doesn't appear she took it as a serious relationship either, considering she broke up with you by declaring herself single over the internet.
I think you have done enough. Leave her alone, take the hint and move on. More than this being your fault I would chalk it up to a compatibility issue. Clearly the communication wasn't there. No big deal. Yes it may hurt but just leave it be and focus on the future. Who knows what will happen?
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Expert
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May 12, 2010, 11:19 AM
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It was fun while it lasted but now that its over, let it go. Time to move on as she has and stay with No Contact, the right way, not your watered down version.
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May 12, 2010, 07:01 PM
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I agree with the advice on here. Clearly she has moved on, so you should do so too by not contacting her anymore. I don't mean to sound harsh but the fact that she's ignoring you means that she wants nothing to do with you anymore. This could be temporary or permanent, only time will tell.
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May 13, 2010, 03:55 PM
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Not to be rude, but maybe all of the trying to contact her and sending her flowers scared her away. After a break up, no one likes to be bothered. A lot take it as time to think. Some even make up their minds quicker than others. Begging or saying sorry gets you no where. Been there done that. It's hard I know.
From what you've said, it seems that she has moved on. If she wanted to talk to you, she would've by now.
Try focusing on other things for the time being. Get your mind off all the bad things.
Dreams are one thing, but reality is another.
Good luck!
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