[superzazou1]

Hi after my girlfriend decide that we must take a brake I called her after 8 days and we talk about general stuff and she said she is going to call me back but che DID NOT till next day and this time we talked longer and we wher kind of happy and like if every thing is OK
And we ended the conversation that we going to cal each other later
Now my question should I call her or should I wait again ?

[J_9]

Okay, the problem is? Hey, she called you back didn't she? Or is she on a time clock?

Man, like we have said all along you are smothering her. Gawd, can she breathe without your permission!!

She may have called back sooner if you would just give her the space she asks for.

You need to wait. Give her the space she is asking for.

Let me ask you, have you ever had a relationship before her? If so, why did it end?

[Wildcat21]

Nope - do not call her. She broke with you - you need to do the no contact rule. You're just going to kill yourself by calling her all the time.

[Tuscany]

Wait!! Do not call her. By calling her you might push her further away

[kp2171]

She broke with you and now you are clinging on to her.

Look... if you keep doing this then she knows she can use you to whatever means she wants. You are "there for her", regardless of how she treats you? Is this what you want? no.

So then you pull back. Stop chasing her down. Two possibilities then. One, shell miss you and realize the break was a bad idea. Two, shell realize the break was good and it'll be permanent.

Now you may not like option two, but its not your choice. Its hers. And what you really want is for her to really want you. So back off. If its not there better to know now than to be a butler to her until she gets so bored she finally tosses you aside.

Again, a break isn't necessarily a bad thing always... I kind of had one with my wife when we were dating... we both took a step back and both decided we were going to take the next step.

But the best thing you can do for you is stop worrying about her. You need to keep your mind busy with other things and other people... and then if she decides maybe it was a bad idea, then maybe you will be interested in her chasing you a little.

Back off. You are in too deep. Its not what you want, but you need to do it.

[Bluerose]

I agree with the others. Back off and let her come to you. But don't put your life on hold, get out and have a good time.

[JoeCanada76]

No do not call her. You're a smotherer and until you realize how to relax and take it easy and not be so demanding and powerful over her it will never work. I do not think or believe that it will work and that you need a lot of maturing before getting into another relationship.

Joe