[blablabla123]

Me and my girlfriend have been through a looooot together in the past year and some change. We've been romantically attached for a little over a year and have had feelings for each other since we've met each other but she had a boyfriend. After they broke up we made things official about 7 months ago. Things were going well and we fell in love with each other but she left because she was confused about her feelings about another man. I was heart broken but I let her back in my life about a month later because "she didnt know her feelings, she was confused, i was the only one she wanted in her life and i need you and blablabla". Things went well again but I was still insecure about her leaving me which I think is understandable and we split again because I overreacted in a situation about another guy that she was getting really close with, but I apologized the same day and asked for another chance because I made a stupid mistake. So yet again she says "i dont know my feelings and im confused' but she still is coming over everyday and saying she misses me and she doesnt want me to be out of her life. so we decide to wait until she is sure she wants to be here and commit because im tired of gettin hurt. so we finally try it again and when i asked her what made her decide this, she says "well I didn't really decide yet". which i understand, nobody can tell the future, but then she says "I love and care about you, but I'm not in love with you". She shows all the signs of being in love though which is what I don't understand, when I leave she's begging for me back, when she leaves she can't be without me, she can't take me being with other women, and many other things, but she can't seem to admit her true feelings or commit. Is it a maturity issue? I don't want to get hurt again because I know I'm in love with this girl and I want to make it work but I don't know if this relationship is right...

[JK191]

As soon as you saw that she expressed feelings for you while having a boyfriend you knew she wasn't truly loyal.

That was a red flag and you ignored it, now you got to live the consequences.

[blablabla123]

Right... man she's so confusing. She's been hurt so many times by guys and she keeps saying she doesn't want to get hurt again and she keeps coming back to me but she wants just superficial stuff, so I don't really know how to handle it anymore

[blablabla123]

I'm not asking for marriage but I think I deserve a little bit more than a chance