[tasha614]

Last time me and my ex stop talking it was for 3 weeks, he was suppose to bring dinner for me and the kids and never called or showed up? So he seen my kids at school and told me to call him, I didn't until the 3rd time ,when I called everything seemed to go back to the way it was.


We had some issues I was texting like I didn't care,he text me more
Then when I seemed to be getting attention, soon as I talk to him it seemed like it was OK ,know its been close to a month and he has not text,or called 1 time didn't call 4 xmas eve,xmas,or new years,nor did he pick up the gifts for his kids


I don't want to call or text because I look weak,what should I do
I miss him,and he may have someone new but I really love him


I felt I was always begging for time and attention,but maybe I
Was too needy or clingy I don't know ,please give me some advice

[Fr_Chuck]

Why should you be texting and calling your ex. You need to discuss his days of visitation with the kids ( assuming they are his kids) besides that you don't have a reason to really be talking to him,

[Romefalls19]

What are you trying to get out of this? Chuck is right, set up visitation days and stop these games

[redhed35]

What do his action say to you?

Get busy with your own life,start new things and meeting people,get out from under the pity pot and get pro active in your life.

Show your kids that you are not needy and clingy and a women can be happy independent and self sufficient...

A relationship should enhance your life,not be your life.

[Devorameira]

Why would you want to have someone that lies to you and the kids? Don't you want someone you can trust?

If you ever want to find real happiness, move on with your life and don't include him in it.

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Hope is the denial of reality.

Now it is my turn to go out and find someone that will love me the way I loved you.

[artlady]

As the father of these children ,he needs to take responsibility for them.

Get an order of support through the court and set up a custody agreement.

That is the only communication you should have with this man who appears to not think very much of you or your children.

Not buying presents for his kids at Christmas and not showing up would be a deal breaker in my book.

[adam_89]

He isn't very respectful of your thoughts or your needs. I am not saying you need him but he needs to be there for the kids at least. Him having no contact with them for over a month is ridiculous. As everyone has said, go through the courts and set up the times your kids can visit him. Otherwise forget about him and be strong for your kids.

[SaraHere]

I know its hard to forget about a man specially if you built a life together and now have kids but its time to move on... there's no point in you calling because its just going to make it seem like he can walk all over you and you accept it which is wrong.. if he can't give a time of day for you or your kids then who is he? Even though you had a life together -once- it doesn't mean you can't get over him just be brave and explore other possibilities stop dwelling on the past and move on with your kids -people- say life's to short then why waste your life on being depressed and lonely when you can get out there and enjoy life.. hope your well and everything's going good for you..