[ohsohappy]

Ohsohappy: He won't talk to me. At all.

I think you should take amicon's advice and try for counseling if you haven't.
Don't give up though, at least not yet. There's still hope, even if it's kind of buried.

[anonyme]

Eight year relationship is dying, I don't want it to!

Amicon -- the counseling is over. He made promises that he wouldn't/couldn't keep. I suggested private counseling for him and that's what prompted him to move to Seattle. I'm involved with a domestic abuse program that is getting me into visits with a counselor. I'm doing the best I can to take care of myself, but even if the relationship can be saved, a separation is called for if either one of us are going to be able to salvage our self esteem. I guess I just answered my own question. And then replied, "But not until my dog dies."

I don't want my dog to die, but he has terminal cancer, although he's completely normal acting. He has a tumor on his heart. They operated on it and told us he had 24 hours to two weeks to live. It will be four months next Friday. What do I do? Wish my dog would die? He's really the only friend I have left.

[talaniman]

Whatever he is going through, its apparent you can't help him through it, so it looks like you, and the dog, had better get your lives together, without him.

[amicon]

I guess you did-and I'm sorry about your dog, the prospect of losing a pet is a bereavement process.
Make sure you have strong support to help you get you back on your feet.
As for him he has to truly want help and then seek it.

[ohsohappy]

Amicon -- the counseling is over. He made promises that he wouldn't/couldn't keep. I suggested private counseling for him and that's what prompted him to move to Seattle. I'm involved with a domestic abuse program that is getting me into visits with a counselor. I'm doing the best I can to take care of myself, but even if the relationship can be saved, a separation is called for if either one of us are going to be able to salvage our self esteem. I guess I just answered my own question. And then replied, "But not until my dog dies."

I don't want my dog to die, but he has terminal cancer, although he's completely normal acting. He has a tumor on his heart. They operated on it and told us he had 24 hours to two weeks to live. It will be four months next Friday. What do I do? Wish my dog would die? He's really the only friend I have left.

Then maybe you should head out.
=/