[Dirty_Harry]

I've been going out with this girl for about 6/7 weeks now and she has told me she wants a break for a week or so.

She said she feels claustrophobic and needs some space as she hasn't been single for about 2 years as she had an 11 month relationship and then her other boyfriends came along with no real gap in between (including me) and she says she was afriad this might happen with jumping straight into a relationship with me. (we met during freshers week at uni).

She said it's the relationship not me and she said we can still talk sometimes rather than totally ignoring each other say if I saw her out and about.

Any advice?

[Wildcat21]

For the LOVE OF GOD!! Do this for me... GIVE HER SPACE!!

Do not under any circumstances call her!! Do not text her!! Do not e-mail her!! Do not answer her calls, text, ore-mail - give her at lest a week!!

Do NOT - if you want her back - be busy do other things - believe me!!

Be busy - think about something else other than her!! Please!

[shygrneyzs]

Then give her the break she wants and realize that she is the one who needs the space for herself, not from you. She most likely jumped from relationship to relationship without giving herself time to breathe.

[Wildcat21]

Let me guess - bet 1 million $ you came on too strong??

Just leave her alone - give her space - make her miss you. I bet you can't do it though.

PLEASE do this!

Give us an update.

[Geoffersonairplane]

Running from one relationship to another is a sure receipe for disaster.

I would listen to the cat on this one, give her the space she wants or possibly lose her forever..!

[Dirty_Harry]

But if I happened to see her about I could talk to her yes?

As she said on the phone she said if I saw her and ignored her she'd just find it immature.

[Dirty_Harry]

Let me guess - bet 1 million $ you came on too strong????????

Just leave her alone - give her space - make her miss you. I bet you can't do it though.

PLEASE do this!!

Give us an update.

I wouldn't say I came on too strong, we both just fell for each other during freshers week.

[Geoffersonairplane]

but if I happened to see her about I could talk to her yes?

as she said on the phone she said if I saw her and ignored her she'd just find it immature.

You should never just ignore anyone for no good reason, that is just plain rude. What we mean is, do not e-mail, call her, put any pressure on her, give her space. If you bump into her, you can talk to her but just keep it casual.

But if you bump into her and just decide to ignore her, that would be immature and also rude. At least, that is the way she would see it even if your ulterior motive is somewhat different.

[Dirty_Harry]

You should never just ignore anyone for no good reason, that is just plain rude. What we mean is, do not e-mail, call her, put any pressure on her, give her space. If you bump into her, you can talk to her but just keep it casual.

But if you bump into her and just decide to ignore her, that would be immature and also rude. At least, that is the way she would see it even if your ulterior motive is somewhat different.

So if she calls me should I answer?

Because I think she'd also think it was immature if I didn't.

Aslong as I don't call her, make it up to her to get in touch sort of thing?

[Geoffersonairplane]

And please remember that it is not a game you are playing with her, you are simply respecting her wish to have space. She will respect you for that + you will show that you are a mature individual!

[Geoffersonairplane]

so if she calls me should I answer?

Because I think she'd also think it was immature if I didn't.

aslong as I don't call her, make it up to her to get in touch sorta thing?

Well, you should not jump to the phone straight away.. If she knows you are there waiting, like a puppy dog, it will seem a bit needy.

Perhaps don't answer the first time, wait until she calls you the second time.

If she asks why you did not pick up the first time or return her call, just apologise and say you were at the gym, out with a firend or whatever or that you simply forgot to call back and apologise and keep it all casual.

As Wildcat says, people want what they can't have - ALWAYS..

Sorry Wildcat, not trying to steal your advice but had to pass it on to this guy..

[Dirty_Harry]

OK well thanks for the advice I shall see how it goes.

[Dirty_Harry]

Oh and I'm talking about a mobile phone so what sort of excuse should I use then?

[Wildcat21]

Leave her alone - stop talking o nthe phone with her. Stop!

WAIT a as long as you can - I'd wait a month - seriously - but you sound really needy and confused - doubt you could do that.

Women WANT some unprdictabilt/mystery - I bet youdon't give that.

IF she geets - MAD - just tell her one day you were respecting her wishes. SHE sked for this - respect this - she'll love you for it in the end.

This is a MRATHON - love - not a sprint to who gets there first.

You have your own life you need to live.

[Geoffersonairplane]

oh and i'm talking about a mobile phone so what sort of excuse should I use then?

What difference does it make if it's a mobile phone or a normal landline, you could still have forgotten to call her back..

It will work out for the best if you follow this advice, and if it does not, well, you did the best thing you could, putting any pressure on her at this point will push her away.

[Dirty_Harry]

Leave her alone - stop talking o nthe phone with her. Stop!

WAIT a as long as you can - I'd wait a month - seriously - but you sound really needy and confused - doubt you could do that.

Women WANT soem unprdictabilt/mystery - I bet youdon't give that.

IF she geets - MAD - just tell her one day you were respecting her wishes. SHE sked for this - respect this - she'll love you for it in the end.

This is a MRATHON - love - not a sprint to who gets there first.

You have your own life you need to live.

What am I meant to do if she says I'm being immature since she said we could still see each other and talk?

She said it's not like we just won't talk. :confused:

[ilovcali]

Say hi, how are you, and then end the conversation. WALK AWAY FIRST. At this point, what she thinks is irrelevant if you are doing as she asked, which is giving her space. Leave her alone, and stop overanalyzing every detail. Overthinking will definitely blow it. And you are overthinking.

[talaniman]

Dude stop worrying about what she thinks, she dumped you remember. Now leave her alone and get a life without her. Who cares what she thinks. She through you a bone and left the door open for conversation, she may throw you enough scraps to keep you hanging on but that's all you will do hang on, while she gets to do whatever she wants. You sure fell hard after only 6/7 weeks. Get a life without her, and just me personally, I wouldn't return her calls period. Why should you? Look out for you cause she isn't nor is anyone else.

[Dirty_Harry]

Dude stop worrying about what she thinks, she dumped you remember. Now leave her alone and get a life without her. Who cares what she thinks. She thru you a bone and left the door open for conversation, she may throw you enough scraps to keep you hanging on but thats all you will do hang on, while she gets to do whatever she wants. You sure fell hard after only 6/7 weeks. Get a life without her, and just me personally, I wouldn't return her calls period. Why should you? Look out for you cause she isn't nor is anyone else.

I think I'll go with what everyone else has said rather than this.

[talaniman]

You want a relationship, she doesn't. Your willing to play it her way because you feel she will eventually see that you are the one for her. If I'm wrong let me know. Can you just be friends?