[EvanescentAngel]

My boyfriend of a year and eight months broke up with me two weeks ago. He told me he wanted to be single, hang out with his friends and play World of Warcraft. As most people have told me, World of Warcraft should come with divorce papers. He said he needed to make this transition of "boyhood" to "manhood" by himself and yeah, I can understand that. And he broke up with me over the phone. You would think he would have more respect for our relationship and me.

I understand it probably was an easy escape for him that way, but it kills me he did it like that. Over the past two weeks, I have been trying to not contact him. Which I would be okay for maybe three days and then break down and have to start the "No Contact" process, as it is called here. I feel as if this pain is never going to go away from what he did...

Yesterday, I passed him at work. Yes, yes... we work together. I got him his job back which I regret now. I was only trying to help him be happy with his life. But back to what happened... I passed him at work and I asked him how his trip to NYC was this past weekend. He went to the city to meet fellow WOW players, I know, it sounds ridiculous, but I wasn't about to pass anymore judgement on him in fear of losing him more so. We got to talking about his trip and I asked who he met and he said a bunch of people from his Guild in WOW. I then proceeded to ask if he met any girls. He hesitated for a long while and he said yes.

I immediately felt my heart breaking more. I asked him what girl he met. He met some girl who plays WOW that lives in Philedelphia. I being the stupid girl began to ask him questions. I asked if he kissed her and he said yes. Then I asked if he slept with her. He told me he didn't have to tell me that.

But that gives me the impression that he did. He said she was very attractive and that she was different. And he keeps telling me that I didn't do anything wrong to make want a break. And I asked him repeatedly when we talked two days after we broke up if there was anyone else and when we talked at work about his trip and he said no. So he lied and told me at the start of the conversation there was still no one else.

He then proceeded to tell me he couldn't write me out of his life once more. And when he says that it confuses the hell out of me. He then proceeded to ask if we could talk more tomorrow and go for a ride in my new car. I looked at him and said, "With what you did two weeks after we broke up, I don't know if I want to be friends with you or if I ever will be ready to be your friend."

I walked away and haven't talked to him since. I deleted his number, pictures and text messages, everything. But I don't understand how he could do this so soon. I don't know if he has been talking to this girl just for the two weeks or longer. I don't know what to think. I am afraid to cut all ties with him because I still love him and I do want to be his friend still in my heart. I just can't grasp the fact he did this.

I don't know if this girl is going to be rebound or what. I don't know what to think. Did I do the right thing by telling him I can't be friends with him and that I will be professional with him at work? Could I have blown any possible chances of us getting back together in the coming year?

-sighs- I'm just one confused girl...

[jmjoseph]

Why would you even WANT to get back together with him? He obviously isn't very mature, considerate, or smart. Let him play his games with his new friends, and you go and find you a real man. One that will treat you like a girlfriend, not like a hobby to be set on the shelf and taken down whenever he wants to play something different.

Why would give him the chance to hurt you again? You need to be MAD, and disgusted with him.

At least he split with you before he slept with the other girl. And he DID sleep with her, you know that too.

Don't call him, and ignore him when you see him at work. He isn't worthy of even a glance.

I wish you luck.

[I wish]

I'll help you sort out some of the confusion:

1) He broke up with you and let you down easy with all those excuses.

2) You need to accept the fact that he doesn't feel the same way about you anymore.

3) Stop talking to him, unless you want to prolong the pain and suffering.