[Cheer_2010]

Ok well I've been talking to this guy for about a month now and we have grown to like each other a lot. The feelings are there but he says he doesn't want a relationship right now. Neither of us wanted something serious but our feelings kind of took over and it just happened which made him want to evaluate what we had because he felt like we were moving to fast. It scared me as well because I didn't understand why my feelings were so strong so soon. After thinking I didn't mind us getting closer because your feelings is something you really can't control but he doesn't want to at all. Not even give it try. We have had sex twice but I don't know if I should stop that between us since he doesn't want to further the relationship. I really like him a lot but we both want two different things. I just don't understand if he likes me the way he says he does then why doesn't he want a relationship w/ me.

[amicon]

As he s very clear about not wanting a committed relationship with you , you re going to have to let this go unless you want to remain his friend with benefits waiting in limbo for him to change his mind.
That way you ll end up hurt and used.The two of you are not on the same page, so step away and keep your dignity.

[talaniman]

He got what he wanted without having a relationship. Stop having sex with him. You had a friends with benefits type thing. Once the lust is satisfied, he wants nothing else.

[I wish]

Since he already knows that you want a serious relationship, back away until he wants the same thing. Let him find you, you need to stop looking for him. There's a chance he may never want the same thing, but at least by then you'll have backed away and not fallen too deep.

You're just setting yourself up for disappoinment if you keep looking for him and wanting something that he doesn't.