[barbarazzz]

This is a long story... I was with my ex 7 years and loved him totally.last year I got pregnant and he ran off, partying a lot,drinking with his mates,I could never reach him on his mobile! he came back 3 months later,and with the stress I miscarried! He is 29,and wouldn't even take driving lessons,I drove him about.Now I have my own place he is nasty about it,told me he wouldn't move in,in a fit of anger smashed it up.Told me he didn't love me anymore,and would rather date others.how much he fancied a girl at work etc.That was 6 weeks ago,and he hasn't met me since.he is nasty when I call,is out drinking every night thinking he will find someone better.I have heard about the no contact rule,but I call hism as I am so heartbroken.what do I do here?

[sully123]

Don't look back, move on. You have been with this man for 7 yrs, I guess youi have dated all this time. No commitment, or are you married? Sounds lilke he hasn't sewed his oats yet, wants a free leg, by partying all the time. Nothing will change him. Sounds too me like the writing is on the wall. He doesn't want the relationship. You deserve better! Why would you call him and waste your time. Your just setting yourself up to get hurt. Yes, 7 yrs is a long time, but I would rather find out now, before its too late. Too me it sounds like he did you a favor. He doesn't sound like he is too stable.

[talaniman]

Sorry for your situation, but please don't pine for a guy who has left you in your time of need, as he has.

Although it will be hard after the years of shared attachments, over time you will celebrate getting this character out of your life, and open the door for better options, than an immature, irresponsible jerk, who parades himself a man.

Now that you know what a real man is NOT, you can better find one who is. No hurry, heal first, from what you have been thru, and can be a good partner someday.