Confused!

Gangster1 · Oct 30, 2006, 01:48 PM

I posted here that I want my ex back! I been taking lexapro and clonazepam for my depression and anxienty and let me tell you it really works! My exgirlfriend left me 2 months ago for some other guy that is not even paying attention to her and doenst want to see her or hang out with her. Last Saturday she called me to go and visit her at her apartment so we could have wait for her girlfriend that was taking a shower at her apartment. She asked me if I wanted to go for a couple of drinks and I said yes! So here I go to her apartment and I haven't seen her for 2 months! SHe still look the same but gained more weight. I go there and all she talks about when am with her is about her boyfriedn of how he doesn't call her and she is allways calling him and when she calls him he makes up stories about being busy or being too tired to go out. She even showed me a picture of him, and I kind of got jealous! I asked her what does she really wants to do? She tell me she wants a guy that wants a serious relationship wich I tell her that I am willing to give it to her! I am very comfuse because she tells me she is depressed about this guy not paying too much attention to her and doesn't know what to do. I was with this gir for 5 years and I tell her That I am willing to change and start all over but I am comfuse because first she tells me all this bad things about her boyfriend but I want her back and she cannot make a decision! SHe also tells me that maybe we will get back togheter but when? I want to know why is she taking so long in making that decision. By the way I told her Saturday that I had to wake up early in the mornig to work! I Want to know why if her relationship is not working and she is depressed why doesn't she makes up her mind and comeback to me? Please Help me on this one!

momofmarcus · Oct 30, 2006, 02:18 PM

Get over her. She is playing games. Get a new boo.

Wildcat21 · Oct 30, 2006, 02:38 PM

Dude - leave her alone for now - no contact - all this contact will just push her away. Believe me. Make her come to you.

YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THIS OTHER GUY. SOUNDS LIKe YOU'RE HER SHOUDLER TO CRY ON - YUCK!!

I'd work on you. She sounds like a nut job if she's in an unhappy relationship.

She's made her decision I believe - it's not you. Seriously. You're being played.

Skell · Oct 30, 2006, 04:07 PM

You should worry about getting your depression in order and not about her.

You should be the priority right now!

Wildcat21 · Oct 30, 2006, 04:11 PM

Guys should NEVER worry about other guys - don't bring them up ever - don't let her talk about them ever - YOU DON'T CARE!! That make you jealous, needy, insecure.

You just say I don't care about other guys - You're boring me. That's boring. I don't care

talaniman · Oct 31, 2006, 07:07 AM

She wants you as a friend and that's that. I would shut off all contact whatsoever and concentrate on the things you like to do. Learn to be happy without her in your life.

s_cianci · Oct 31, 2006, 06:56 PM

I think she's as confused as you are. The worst thing you can do is push, beg with or otherwise cajole her into coming back to you. That will make you look needy and desperate and push her away for sure. You should be getting out and having fun, without her. If she invites you out for drinks or something like that you can accept but you should keep it fun and strictly lighthearted. Be busy and have limited time yourself. Be aloof and make her wonder what you're up to. That'll spark her interest much more than trying to plead with or cajole her.