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    honeyhunter2006 Posts: 6, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 28, 2006, 03:10 PM
    A second Chance
    Hello Everyone

    I wrote back in August about my problem, (Titled Feelings from the past) and definitely appreciated everyone's answers and the time they took to write. And yes, I did follow the advice and that is why I am here today.

    As suggested by everyone, I walked away and gave her space, not that it was a easy thing to do. But I knew that it was the right thing to do. There were a lot of weak moments, but I held out and stayed completely away from her. I did go out and meet other people, made some new friends and just tried to carry on with my life.
    She tried to chat with me a couple times online, but I said very little and showed virtually no interest. As difficult as it was for me. I just played it cool (lol)

    Well since then, in the last couple weeks we have been in contact (initiated by her)and we are talking and trying to pick up where we left off.. Although inside I am excited, I am not going overboard. Yes, I want this to work... and I can definitely see a change in her since we went our own ways for a while. This is very important to me, and I think our little time away from each other definitely helped. Even though nothing is for sure at any time, I do know that stepping back and giving her space has given us a second chance.

    Thanks.:)
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    Oct 28, 2006, 03:49 PM
    Go very slow, There is no hurry. Take the time to do this right, even though I have reservations about her motives. Keep your eyes open. Don't be so excited she is available that you fall for anything.
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    Oct 29, 2006, 02:32 PM
    Go SLOW. Listen to her. Find out what HER needs are. What she wants!!

    LISTEN TO HER!! LISTEN!!
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    Oct 29, 2006, 02:33 PM
    Make her contact you!
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    Oct 29, 2006, 03:34 PM
    It is good that she is different, you be different too.
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    Oct 29, 2006, 04:41 PM
    YEs this is good to hear. Glad you are getting the second chance you craved.
    But pleae don't fal into old traps. I hope to hell that while you had no contact with her you worked out what went wrong. How you could have changed etc.

    And I hope you both implement them changes so as it works this time. Because if you don't you will back here again in a few months asking for our advice on how to heal the pain again after it fails for a second time!

    Good luck. Take it slow. Keep asking advice here. It can really help you!
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    Oct 29, 2006, 09:24 PM
    Please make sure to have some bondries and rules - how much contact - how often date - WHAT DOES EACH OTHER WANT!!

    Listen her - listen to her troubles - her wants - her needs. Trust me on this. Ask her -she'll flip.

    BUT, be busy as well - don't always go racin gto call her, chat etc. it's OK to go to voice mail.
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