[Mikis]

Hello! I would be grateful if someone could share their opinion and advices about my situation.

First I am going to tell a bit about myself.

I am a 20 years old male. I have been born under the Virgo zodiac sign and inherited all the characteristics that came with it. I am not good at romance and no good with women. I get along with them easily as far as simple friendship goes but I have never had a girlfriend. To put it simply: I used to see love, sex and all the sentimental crap as a weakness and an inhibitor. I have never actually searched for a woman and have never let anyone in as well. Without boasting I can say that I am a handsome fellow, athletic and witty. However, I have a hard time telling weather a woman actually likes me or not. I can usually see through people like through glass in any other case. I am a loner and prefer to spend my evenings reading books or watching "National Geographic". Never have I felt the sensation of love and the pain of loss. I have no interest in having a short term relationship with anyone because I consider it pointless. In short-I have dedicated my entire life upgrading my mind and body and left everything else dormant. That doesn't mean I am all mind. My heart is in the right place and I love helping people. I am responsible, dedicated and above all else reliable to the core. I wish everyone well and rarely get angry. But I lack confidence in myself.

A few days ago my whole life routine foundations were stricken hard. I have fallen for a girl. We met accidentally at her workplace and started talking. Despite the fact that I felt a phenomenally potent attraction towards her I had no hopes at the beginning. However after just 10 minutes I understood that something was not right not as I had anticipated. I have never felt like that in my entire life. I can say that I have an extreme sense of humor and can make almost anything seem funny. Few people want to relate to a joker. But she saw through me. Through the mask of the joker. We talked for 5 hours the first day and 8 hours the second. We talked about the most crazy stuff and almost laughed our "guts" out the whole time. No word, glimpse, movement went to waste or was misunderstood. It was like staring at the feminine copy of myself. Until that time I thought it was impossible for me to find a woman who could stand my crazy personality. She is very sweet, loveable, simple, understanding, caring, diligent and hardworking. I feel a strong positive aura around her. She never said anything that could insult me in any way. And she is simply gorgeous. We were both a little freaked out about how we immediately related. We were and are complete strangers. She said it herself that she feels like we had known each other all our lives. She even agreed that I would drive her home. I waited for 3h. So I could take her home.- What sensible girl would sit in a car with a stranger? I asked her. She said that she would never do that, however for some reason she trusted me. I can feel that she likes me but is mixed and unsure of who I am and what I want. Well! I want a soul mate. I person I could relate to, care for and love with everything I have. Sexual attraction is not the case here. I would agree to never have sex again if I could just be near that girl. But how can I show my dedication and pureness towards her without freaking her out. That is the question. I want to show her that my intentions are bright, pure and altruistic. I don't want to take advantage of her, I don't want to seduce her. I want to be her friend, her caretaker, her guardian. I want to bring this girl kindness, happiness and love. I want her to trust me and I will shower her with unconditional love and dedication.

I am going to see her again tomorrow at her workplace. I feel its going to be another 8h.run. But how do I approach her. How can I reveal my true intentions without looking funky and weird. I don't want to look like a crazy dude who leeched on and doesn't leave her alone. She is sensitive but cautious and smart. So a part of her will definitely think I might be some lunatic or something. Please share your opinion on how I should proceed in order not to frighten her and show her who I really am and what I really want.

Thank you very much!
P.S She is a Taurus by zodiac. Maybe this will shed some light on her personality.

[Clough]

Hi, Mikis!

So, how about just letting things flow and see what happens without all the analyzing of the situation? You've already spent what would appear to be quality time with each other. It would seem that that sort of time together is likely to happen again.

You've also already established a relationship with her so, I don't think that there is anything that you have to "prove".

Relationships take time and patience to develop. So far, you do have a crush on this woman and don't know everything there is to know about her. Please be patient and give things time...

I can remember, when I was your age, getting up in the middle of the night to write, what in the end, resulted in volumes of trying to figure things out between myself and someone in whom I was interested.

What I would suggest doing is saying "Hi!" to her and ask her how she's doing and then look for the opportunities to have some fun again together without forcing the issue of getting together again like you did.

If you're going to see her tomorrow at her workplace, does that mean that the two of you work for the same company? Or, does she work in a totally different place than you might?

Hopefully, others will also come along to address your post.

Thanks!

[amicon]

Just take it nice and slow and don't rush into things to quicklyEnjoy.getting to know each other:-)

[Mikis]

Hello!
Thank you for your time reading my "essay". You are both right. I have to take it slow and steady. I am on holiday and she has an outside summer job selling goods. That allows me to interact with her without inhibiting her from doing her work. But there are a few problems when talking about the perspective of our might-be-relationship. First she is 2 years younger than me. That means she is in the 12 grade now and I will already begin my second year at a university. Also, I study at a different city and come to my home town (where she lives) only occasionally and on summer holidays like I am now. Those are the issues that prevent me from sleeping at night. There is a great chance that next year after graduation she will attend a university in the same city I do as it has the best universities in my country and that is a small relief for me. What should I do to keep her near for a whole year when I am 300km away from her and at the same time not look possessed or overly obsessed with her and not scare her away? Also, when I asked how I should approach her I meant in general: should I look at her as a would-be girlfriend or just try to befriend with her and try to be a kind and helpful guy-friend.
Thank you!

[amicon]

Befriend her first I d say-dont come on to strong.and don't worry about the future .

[Mikis]

Right amicom! That would be the most reasonable thing to do. I sincerely don't know where this will lead. We could be good friends but I would like more. However, it is for her to decide. I will not force or rush her. If she "says" no, I will respect that and will have to withdraw even to my own bitter peril. But at the end I would still want to be her loyal friend no matter what her decision would be. She is a really beautiful girl and she even said that she's tired of every man looking at her as a potential girlfriend. I didn't pretend I was much different. I said that she is both blessed and cursed. I told her that she is very attractive but I tried to seem as unbiased as possible so she wouldn't feel uncomfortable and I tried to noticeably turn my attention to her different attributes: her intelligence, dedication at work, her enchanting laughter and many more. Hopefully she will notice that I am not looking for a playmate but more for a soul mate.
Thank you for your opinion. I don't really have many people around to pour my heart out.