[Limeguy]

Ok here's my long story. She and I fell in love in less than a week. Two months later We've had a rocky relationship when her ex came into the picture and I made an out of myself because they were flirting at a party. She says its normal for her to flirt its her way... Well it made me uncomfortable and I set her aside that night during the party and told her how I felt. Ex came out and said he was leaving then she followed him to his car when we were in middle of talking. She came back 40 minutes later and we were fighting. Months down the road were still together and a little bit rocky, I'm threw with her and going to another woman when she breaks down and tries to make me stay and she hurts herself and I had to come in and stop her. I go back to her and we were happy and such. I thought things are getting better, now its ugh. We live together and she is always yelling at me or being mad for little things. I remember when she used to call like crazy and text me but now she barely cares about me. She constantly on her phone and she's telling me I'm not their for her like her ex and her friends are but yet Ive been living with her for three months when she's said this. Very moody and one moment she's angry the next shell send a message with a smiley face and be flirty with me after a fight or something and I don't understand when shell be angry the next morning. Tell me if this is wrong but, first day of move into our place and I'm excited and happy, she goes and runs errands for three hours then come by and leaves again for awhile to the store all the while she's hanging out with some guy who she brings home and they go into her room and she claims they didn't do anything and I told her I don't like that when the door is locked and shut. To make matters worse she's told me that this guy wants to be with her and hates my guts. She said they were playing play station and talking. I am perfectly OK with friends and my girlfriend having them, I'm not jealous but when I feel something is wrong I don't hold it in. I told her to come out and talk to me then the guy was leaving because she said I think its best.. they go outside and they talk for ten minutes and hug and hug some more. All the while she's crying because I told her what the heck is going on, later that night we makeup and its good. Then next morning I'm new in the area and think the bus stop is in this area when it isn't and she misses her bus to work( first Day). She's pisses and says don't talk to me and when it was a simple mistake, she called a cab and I gave her money to pay for it. She told me her friend is coming back over and that I'm too leave them alone... I just don't feel like I trust this situation but I need some advice. I'm male and I know I have done wrong but it takes two to tango. I just feel like everything is my fault and that I'm worthless, she even tell me she tries to make me feel small when she's not liking what I am doing

[JeffGrizzwald]

It seems like you're her play toy. You need to be up front with her and tell her how you feel about everything she does. Hiding important things like that just makes you feel worse and worse each day. Tell her the problem and see how she takes it. If she honestly sits down and listens to you then that's a good sign. If she blows it off and thinks its funny or whatever then she's not worth your time. You need to see where you stand as the man in her life.

[talaniman]

To say you fell hard to fast is an understatement. That's to bad, as you knew nothing about her personality or her past issues that effect you now.

Talaniman Rule - Never get involved with a female who has unresolved issues with the ex

So how long had they been apart? Obviously he is still a part of her life, you just don't know how big a part.

Talaniman Rule - To much, to fast, crash and burn.

That's exactly what you have, you jumped into something with a stranger that ain't working and need to get out of this relationship, and don't use being so in love as an excuse to keep being miserable.

You have no communications, just her doing her thing and manipulating you into giving her what she wants.

This is in no way a healthy relationship.

When a situation doesn't work for you, you get out of it, or change it, and for sure, she ain't changing for you so let the ex and her friends support her.