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wifey407 · Aug 17, 2009, 06:15 PM

So my boyfriend has 5 kids with his ex. Me and him are currently together for 3 years now, we have 2 kids together. He is a GREAT father to ALL of his kids and his kids come over to our house every day. He does SO much for them, as a father. So... recently when my boyfriend was out of town, his baby mama slashed my tires. I am trying REALLY HARD to let it go (ONLY for the kids sake so they do not see any drama between us). Now , she is moving to an apartment and asked him to help her. Mind you, she has many brothers, sisters,cousins,etc here. I am SO over her taking advantage of him because he is such a good man. My question is, should I trip, get upset at him/her? What should I do?

BlackVY · Aug 17, 2009, 06:19 PM

You should sit down with her as an adult, tell her that he is your man, and she needs to back off. This just ain't right

mudweiser · Aug 17, 2009, 07:31 PM

She slashed your tires? What did he say about that? Did you involve the police; she damaged your property.

BlackVY is right you need to sit down with her and have a conversation with her, in fact make it a family affair- involve him too in this conversation.

The three of you need to work together- if not it'll terminate this relationship and leave you bitter.

Talk it out even with a family counselor- there are many places where they actually offer this for free, look it up in your community. You can also go to a pastor if you are religious-- having a mediator in such a stressful conversation can help. He or she will be able to try to keep the peace during the conversation without shouting, screaming, cursing or violent behavior.

I would also suggest during this conversation that you let everything out- what you feel, what she has done that still hurts, and how it affects your relationship with your partner. Be clear, don't get angry or upset, if you want things to work out you need to go in there calm and not let emotions get the best of you.

Good luck.

Sarah

Romefalls19 · Aug 18, 2009, 04:56 AM

Talk to the police about the slashing of the tires, and then tell your boyfriend how you feel and then let him know that she needs to back off