[chachisplace]

I won't go into the fine detail of my situation because it is fully outlined in my other thread but..

Me and my ex girlfriend have started to hang out again and we both want our relationship to work. So we have been dating again basically after about 2 months of barely any contact and she came back saying that I am the one she wants to be with and she has made some bad decisions and just needed to take a step back to feel like she was in control of her emotions and decisions again.

So we have gone on a few dates and there has been kissing and cuddling but no intimate sexual contact, because we just want to take it slow and make sure we don't rush in and smother each other (although we both know it would be really easy to do so).

So last night I cooked her dinner and we watched some TV at my house and just chilled out and then went into my room for some private time. When we kiss and cuddle she gets really shy and seems like she is a bit akward or something. So I asked her if she liked being in my arms and she said she did. And I asked her "what is up then.. are you ok" and she replied that "it just feels different, thats all".

I don't know if it is because we haven't been like that in a while or what. She is going overseas for 7 weeks soon on holiday and she has mentioned that we shouldn't dive into anything full on yet because "what if things are different when she gets back" (not because of being with other people as we are fully committed to each other, but more because of the lack of contact after we have already had a gap in contact)

So after she went home I sent her a text saying "thanks for the great night, i love spendin time with you and i want us to get that bond back that we had, i feel like we are getting closer again and it feel right having you in my arms"

To her reply "I had a good night too, i am trying to get us back to where we were, it just feels different, but we will work on it, night xx"

I am worried that it feels different, but I know that different is not always BAD, we have both sorted through a lot in the time we were apart and have sorted out some issues that were never talked about before.. I believe in us and think everything will be fine.. but can different be good and make us stronger for what we have been through?

[N0help4u]

You are right different is not always bad.
You know the saying 'The honeymoon is over'
That doesn't necessarily mean you are fighting each other. It means you have come to a place where your relationship is more about commitment rather than emotion.

They say most Hollywood marriages don't work out because they are always looking for the emotional aspect.
Most marriages don't last if they are looking for the emotional level.

Let her have her space and when she comes home maybe have the nicest welcome back date but don't push her for anything she isn't ready for.