[khellendros]

The internet is a dangerous place for relationships. I've somehow managed to capture the hearts of three different women, and I can't say that they don't have my heart as well. I don't know what to do, or how to continue on from here. I feel as if I'm being tugged in three different directions. It doesn't help that all three know each other somewhat, so if any of them catch wind of what's brewing, it'll blow up in my face and destroy the friendships I took years to make.

One is a woman who is older than me, and we just clicked. She's sweet, and much wiser than I, and she's just really fun to talk to. She has a quick temper and a short patience, but she's easy to settle down. We hooked up online and tried it out, but found that our experiences put a huge gap between us. Right now we're friends, but it feels as if we're just waiting for that right moment to come back together again.

The other is a fragile girl who I fell for trying to help her. It was sympathetic at first, but now that she's stronger, the feelings remain. She's a fiery girl, literally in hair and figuratively in personality, and she's just awesome to be around. I love talking to her, and we always can make each other laugh. We also have many similar interests. She's also the farthest I've gone with, in the sense that I've actually met her once. We really hit it off too. Problem is, she lives half the country away, and the pain of long distance is too much for her to handle. But that visit was extremely recent, Tuesday, actually, and it renewed our feelings for each other...

The last girl is the newest one. But we hit it off so well, she started calling me brother. That was because both of us were in a relationship at the time. But we both had a bad breakup, and we sort of came together since our exes hooked up behind our backs and left us in the dust. She's starting to have feelings for me, but she's the only one I'm really trying to push away... I care about her too much to get her tangled in this, but it doesn't help when all her friends are practically shoving us together...

Basically I'm at a loss at what to do. All three of these women like me, and I can see myself with any of them. But, I'm scared to hurt people. And I know picking one would hurt the others. I know I just need to man up, but... Blah. This wasn't really a question, more like a vent. But if anyone's willing to help, I'll gladly take it.

-Ed

[Romefalls19]

Pick girl number 2


Or try dropping them all because they deserve not to be led on

[Justwantfair]

Try real dating, and slip out of your online fantasies.

[dreamingartist]

pick #4. also, you haven't met in person for a few of them.. so its not even a relationship, online flings are so confusing. How do you know even know you are compatible when you have the fairytale online thing going. You don't fight about what TV show to watch, or money, or bills, or expenses. Its very easy to communicate with somoene over the internet. You can sit and think of exactly what to say, you don't get jealous that easily. You don't plan dates and events, I'd go with the one closest to you, meet her, see how it goes. Tell the other 2 that you met someone and that you value their friendship and you need some time to spend in your "real" relationship. You have no commitments to any of the 3 girls. (YET)

[talaniman]

Talaniman Rule- Be honest with yourself, and be honest with others.

The mess starts when you lead someone on, and not be honest with them. Thats a disaster when they learn the truth. Now you can be friends with many people, as long as you stay within the boundaries of good behavior. That goes for dating also.

Online, now that may be new, but the same rules apply. Be honest, and don't cross the lines because you have an agenda.

I worry only that this cyber stuff your doing, has your reality confused, and thats the real issue to deal with.