[crankytwinkles]

I've recently noticed this guy in my apartment building. He lives down the hall from me. I think he lives on his own. The other day I was leaving my apartment and he was walking in and I said hi to him. He said hi and kept walking. I melted, ha. I saw him again today and said hi and he said hi. I really want to ask him out for a coffee/drink but I don't know what to do. I don't think he has a girlfriend because I never see him with anyone but I don't know forsure. I also don't want to waste my time if he wouldn't be interested. I do know guys can be shy. I'm very outgoing but I'm definitely shy when I'm interested in someone. I am very interested in getting to know this guy but I don't know how to start a conversation with him. Any ideas on how I can start a conversation or what I can do? HELP!

[kp2171]

Well, how long has he lived there? You said you noticed him recently. You could always start with a simple "so did you just move in recently or am i just clueless?" followed up by an intro of names regardless of whether he just did or not and some improv.

Here's another thing we did once to get to know our neighbors in the apt bldg... I live in the midwest and we had a big snowstorm. We knocked on some doors of people we knew and people we didn't exactly know so well, and had an improptu party at the floor lounge. Sat, drank, ate delivery, and watched the cars get stuck in the snowbanks for a few hours.

Now, you don't have to wait for a snowstorm. Are there other people in the complex you are friends with? Sometimes you know nobody else really, so you could always have a little get together at your place with a bunch of friends or coworkwers or whatever to celebrate, hell, happy-fourth-friday-of-whatever-month-it-is-day, and slip him an invite. Granted, you might throw a party and he might not come. So what have you lost? You've taken a chance, you've initiated contact, and you get a party in defeat. Or he buys a clue and comes by to see what is what. Even if he doesn't, you might be kicking around in his head, which is really the first step. Since he's already wandering through your mind.

Need more details to help more.

[Wonder1984]

Deepends on what kind of approach you want...

One thing that would work if it was me would be...

"Hey! I want to meet you. I know a great place for coffe... Wanna join me some day?"

Very simple and straight forward...

So what kind of approach?

[crankytwinkles]

Thanks. I did meet my neighbor and I had to act fast because he was moving out that day. I don't know if he was really inerested but I did ask him to do something and he gave me his number. We are suppost to do something today. I said I'd call him later this afternoon. Lets keep our fingers crossed.
How do I delete this thread now.

[Krs]

Ive seen this thread before :confused: