[Triysle]

So I recently posted my story about my recent break up. I had been trying the NC since it happened about two weeks ago, but there was always something of hers that would show up as I began packing my things, etc.

I had been doing fine with just the occasional text, and she had been coming to get her things when she knew I wouldn't be home (my roommates let her in) so we hadn't seen each other face to face for awhile. I had recently found a hoodie that she said she wanted, so I texted to see what she wanted me to do with it. She texted back that she was upstairs, so I took it up and knocked on the door.

The girl that answered was a completely different person than the girl I had dated for the past year and eight months. She had her hair done up like I had never seen it, and was dressed in casual but still really sexy clothes. She had on make up, but it was just the right amount to set off her features. I had planned to hand her the hoodie, say "Good luck with your finals," smile, and walk away. I just said "hey" and stood there for a second. In that short second she reached over, grabbed the hoodie, and said "thanks" as she closed the door. I never even got to say anything to her, lol.

Ever since then the image has been burned into my brain. I finally went and deleted her from my phone, and my myspace (even though I don't check it that often). I told all my friends to help me by not letting me bring her up in conversation, and if I didn't listen to hang up on me. My point is, after all the time of healing and starting to get over her, that one image of her completely shot everything down.

Take my advice - do NOT ever break NC, for any reason! It hurts alot more to have all your progress shot down, and now I'm basically set back in my recovery process. I'll still get over her, but it's going to take longer now!

~ Tee

[chuff]

Great story, thank you for sharing it. This is why you should also not date someone you work with... because you can never get rid of them. I'm kind of glad you did it though, because you at least got a lesson learned from the situation. So if you can take that positive of the education and hold onto that you at least got something.

[Romefalls19]

I also can add, don't date anyone you work with. I did it, and the break up was very awkward. The woman I am with now, I worked with for a month until she left that place, we both agree we wouldn't have worked out if we didn't both leave because of the stress and drama.

Great story and I am glad you learned this lesson.

[talaniman]

I give you credit for recognizing and learning your lesson, and your attitude about it will carry you through.

I agree with Rome, workplace relationships bring on more stress than its worth.

[Triysle]

Just want to throw this in there - I didn't meet her at work, I met her at our university. The good news is our schedules don't line up that well anyway so that I can both heal on my own and respect her space.

Thanks for the responses though. I'm already feeling better, I can even think of the image without it hurting anymore :)

~ Tee