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Horth · Apr 30, 2009, 08:18 PM

Ok so 5-6 monthes ago my ex was cheating on me and left me. It was a loooong relationship but anyway we left on rough grounds.

Since then I have kept NC with her. Haven't asked about her, could care less about her life. Anyway the problem is her sister who I have no problem with and am actually pretty good friends with is playing at a local bar against 20+ people and if she gets top 5 moves onto a large competition where she could possible go somewhere with.

The problem is my ex *might* be there. I haven't asked her sister but if she is I will honestly keep the NC rule. Won't look at her I'm completely done. BUT if her current BF is there I feel the obligation to beat his @ss.

So my real question is should I attend. I want to cheer for her but I don't know if its going to cause some problems.

Mary99 · Apr 30, 2009, 08:23 PM

I think the real reason to go would to be to support her sister. And not worry about your ex, and if she is there, just ignore her and if her boyfriend is there, ignore him too! You are better than both of them and prove it to them, by avoiding them as much as you can! :) have fun at the show. Ps bring a friend ( maybe a girl) lol just so you can feel better if your ex and boyfriend are there.

I wish · Apr 30, 2009, 08:59 PM

Wow 5-6 months and you're still recovering. Good job on the no contact. Just let the sister know that you're not yet ready to see your ex, so you can't show up. No point ruining all the progress that you've made.

By the way, you need to control your anger. Your ex is not part of your life anymore. Forget about her new boyfriend. Take the high road man! Don't sink to that level.

Dare81 · May 1, 2009, 01:56 AM

I don't think you should go,looks like you still have some built up animosity against your ex and her boyfriend.

Gemini54 · May 1, 2009, 02:25 AM

Well, I guess you should ask yourself 2 questions:

1. If I attend wiil I behave with maturity and restraint? Yes? Then go.

2. If I attend will I behave like ridiculous d***head? Yes? Then don't go.

You decide. Simple.

kctiger · May 1, 2009, 05:44 AM

Originally Posted by Horth

BUT if her current BF is there i feel the obligation to beat his @ss.
.

So your question is a matter of maturity, which you clearly don't have. Mr. Internet tough guy, why is it you feel the need to "beat your ex's boyfriend's a$$" if you are so "over it?" Look man, if you can't handle reality, then by all means, stay at home. I am sure if you did go, beat this dude up, and showed your ex what a true man you are, she would remember why she dumped your unclassy a$$ anyway.

I think you sound a bit more mature than you lead on to be, but maybe I am wrong. Live your life for you, and nothing your ex does should effect it... NOTHING!

Carry on my man! :cool:

liz28 · May 1, 2009, 05:56 AM

No, I don't think you should go because your already not thinking maturely.

You might go there and get your a$$ kick (might even land in jail) and interfere with this girl performance.

You might be over your ex, a little, but you have tons of anger left in you.

Do yourself a favor and your ex girlfriend sister a favor by not going. And don't go anywhere your ex is since you can't act civil.

HistorianChick · May 1, 2009, 06:05 AM

Why ask for your heart to be hurt again? You broke up 5-6 months ago and are obviously not over the pain.

Why set yourself up for it?

I say no. Call the friend and tell her to Break a Leg in the competition, but don't go. It's not worth it.

talaniman · May 1, 2009, 06:22 AM

If your going to cause trouble, stay home

If you are afraid of how you will act, stay home.

Romefalls19 · May 1, 2009, 06:38 AM

If you can't act like a mature adult, stay home.
My ex left me for another guy, I saw them together everyday at work, but I had the maturity to just let it go.

She's over it, you claim your over it. So GET OVER IT

Horth · May 1, 2009, 12:47 PM

I appreciate the responses,

Ive thought about what everyone has said. In my heart and my head I'm over this girl so I guess its time to get rid of the anger built up inside me.

So I guess a new question would be:

If I just totally ignore anyone affiliated with her would it be OK to go?

Again this isn't an attempt to spy on her I just want to show my support.

liz28 · May 1, 2009, 01:01 PM

If you are able to go there without starting any mess then go. Otherwise stay home.

So the question you should ask yourself is "Am I able to ignore my ex and her boyfriend?"

BMI · May 1, 2009, 01:22 PM

Seriously man, how close to her sister are you? Unless it would mean the world to her if you showed up than it's probably no bigthing AND a part of you is curious or worse.

You say you've let go but want to beat up her b/f, uh yeah that tells us your not over her.

Credit to you on 5/6 months of N/C, no credit to you if you blow it now and convince yourself going is a good idea.