[dg_sandy]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 6 months. We were best friends for a long time then took things to the next level. We used to have very passionate sex almost everyday and he would usually initiate it. But lately he seems completely uninterested in me. I always have to intiate sex now and I always seem to be giving oral sex, never receiving. The last few weeks I've asked to have sex, he simply replies with, "I guess". He doesn't seem to enjoy it at all and seems very disappointed after. The last time we had sex it was early in the day and it seemed like he was going to fall asleep at any moment, so I just gave up. He was soft when I took his penis out. He's always watched porn and masterbated while we've dated, so I don't necessarily believe that is what's getting in the way because it's never been excessive. And I don't have any reason to believe he is cheating on me.

I don't know what to do anymore. I already feel insecure and ugly, so this is just intensifying the poor opinion I have of myself. Does anyone have any advice or a thought they'd like to share? Please help!

[talaniman]

The honeymoon is over, and the work begins. You resolve your issues by working together, through honest communications, that benefit you both.

Talking and listening to build on what you have, and define what you both want out of this relationship.

Don't expect to talk out your concerns and have solutions overnight, the process takes time and input from you both, so be patient, as you find out a relationship that works, is about more than sex, and love.