[rudetome]

Why does anyone like me? I'm a good person and they are telling me off.things like I don't want to be around you, I don't like being with you , they want to leave me. They don't care about me.:mad::eek::confused::(

[rudetome]

Is there really any good men out there who actually care about the woman and not just himself?

[kctiger]

*cough* as I slowly raise my hand...

Right here!

[zeeniee]

Well rudetome,

I agreee with Kctiger- I believe there's plenty on this site- start read their posts!

[kctiger]

Perhaps you are attracting the wrong crowd...

[Romefalls19]

I am really growing sick of these "any good men" posts. I could go into a HUGE rant right now about how maybe you are attracting the wrong guys, or perhaps you are not a likable person, have a bad personality or expect too much out of the guy.

Things to remember when looking for a mate
1. Seldom will you find the "right one" when you are looking.
2. There is no prince out there, just someone who does what he can to make the relationship work.
3. BOTH sexes are responsible for keeping the relationship afloat.
4. Just because you have had a bad run of luck with a certain sex, doesn't mean we are all like that.

I could add more but I'll stop my vent with one more sentence. Some guys could come on here and say "where are all the honest and loving women" (I'm sure there are some threads like that, but not nearly as many)

[kctiger]

I am really growing sick of these "any good men" posts. I could go into a HUGE rant right now about how maybe you are attracting the wrong guys, or perhaps you are not a likable person, have a bad personality or expect too much out of the guy.

Things to remember when looking for a mate
1. Seldom will you find the "right one" when you are looking.
2. There is no prince out there, just someone who does what he can to make the relationship work.
3. BOTH sexes are responsible for keeping the relationship afloat.
4. Just because you have had a bad run of luck with a certain sex, doesn't mean we are all like that.

I could add more but I'll stop my vent with one more sentence. Some guys could come on here and say "where are all the honest and loving women" (i'm sure there are some threads like that, but not nearly as many)

Had to spread the rep, but I agree. I think she is extremely bitter about something and is generalizing her awful experience towards the greater population of us men!

As a matter of fact, rather than asking a rhetorical question, how about telling us about your experience that gave you such a bitter outlook. Perhaps we could help you more on that end.

[zeeniee]

Maybe she could explain her situation/problem which would be more useful...

[Romefalls19]

Had to spread the rep, but I agree. I think she is extremely bitter about something and is generalizing her awful experience towards the greater population of us men!

Yep, my thoughts exactly. I had my first "love", it was high school, cheat on me physically(more than a couple times) then had my second meaningful relationship(2 1/2 years) cheat on my emotionally(the one I wrote about on here) so it would be so easy for me to come on here saying all girls are nothing but liars and cheats, but I held out hope and said you know what, there are going to be a few bad seeds and I will find someone who will love me for me and what I do and that will be enough to make her be honest and truthful. Sure enough, I found someone(my fiance) who has been the most honest, trustful women I have met(besides my mother) and she doesn't take any of my bullsh*t. I could go into detail about how this relationship is working out for the better but I don't want to hijack

[spitvenom]

My wife gets mad at me because she says I care about her more then I care about myself. Like for example I never pick anywhere we go to eat because she really enjoys food I could careless as long as it is healthy I'll eat it.

I would say the only thing I am selfish about is when sports are on. I love watching and playing sports so If there is a Sixers Eagles Phillies or ANY game on and say something she wants to watch is on at the same time her show will get Tivoed and I will watch sports but as soon as the game is over we watch what she wants to watch. Hell I've watched so much sex and the city I know what episode it is in the first minute of the show. That is pretty sad for a guy now that I just seen it typed out Oh well.

[slapshot_oi]

A man will be a jerk in a relationship when his woman with lets them get away with it. Demand respect and it will be given to you. It goes beyond romantic relationships, too, it's any personal relationship you have.

Girls I've known with a**hole boyfriends have always (unjustly) given more than they received. They had done everything for them—pay for their new HD TV, drive 'em to work, give 'em money to hang out with friends without her; all for nothing in return, not even "thank you"—and don't understand why they're treated like garbage. It's all because those girls never had the minerals to get up and leave, or at least put their foot down, when they knew they were being wronged. That behavior shows weakness, and so, jerk-boyfriends will sink his claws in deeper and deeper until so much damage is done there's not a prayer in the world to save the relationship.

To them, it's all about power, there is no mutual respect and trust. Even when those girls broke up with their boyfriends, they still kept in touch and those dudes would do all they could to manipulate them, and it worked, giving the power back to the jerk-boyfriend.

The difference between men is that some boyfriends do respond this way, while others just break-up with the girl "unexpectedly", and some just become disengaged and "fall out of love" or something. There's a gazillion reactions, but those are the few that come to mind.

Don't act spineless and you won't even attract jerks anymore. Those guys need control, and when they sense they won't be able to control a woman, they won't even bother asking her out on a date.

EDIT
You recently edited your post making things a tad-bit clearer "why doesn't anyone like me... they don't care about it", that's all clear indication of "unself-confidence". You have to believe you deserve to better and you will get that.

I was a total jerk to one of my exes, I didn't realize how bad it was until a year ago, and we broke up in 2007.

[talaniman]

Sounds like yo have had some bad luck in your relationships. Care to elaborate?

[spitvenom]

Buy another TV, and have a man cave for it. Big screen!!

When it came time to buying our new TV I kind of went a little crazy I bought a 40" Samsung LCD TV with a polk audio surround system (sony receiver) and a Tivo HD. We could have bought another TV but we both decided against it so I spent the money on a 1000 gig Media center (it was worth it!!!!!!). We live in an apartment right now but we both agreed when we do decide to buy a house I will take all the "old" stuff and I can do whatever I want to the basement she will get the living room and buy new stuff (hopefully!! )

[godiscool]

They just don't understand what a great person you are. Someday they will be your best friends.

[roxypox]

Well... not all men are aweful jerks who like to walk all over women. Men on AHMD is a good example of this. And really you should tell us about your experience, because then we can give you more specific advice.

As for men and relationships, not all men are awful, and you are prob attracting a certain kind of guys (or course just guessing).

But I do believe that certain types of people attract a certain type of people. Like if I have a terrible need to take care of people I might be looking for men who needs to be taken care of... but if I have a terrible need to be taken care of I might look for men who could take care of me...