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perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 06:59 AM

Originally Posted by lawanwadee

Big differences between western and eastern culture.. I've lived in many different countries plus working with people's issues, I agree that you should let this secret die with you... don't tell hime ever, even you've had sex with the whole fleet. Men's ego is fragile... just say NO.

If you marry an American or Canadian or a Brit, it's different story.

I want to do that : die with that secret but I don't think I could live like that Im born in American and teenage years here are not that easy to walk out virgin, some much pressure. I'm 25 years old and he would not forgive me if he finds out he would give me the divorce maybe on the same night if he finds out Im not.

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:04 AM

Originally Posted by a la king

Perfectdolls: Can you tell us why you feel you are in danger? Is your family and soon to be inlaws strict with their beliefs?

Which country will you be residing in after marriage?

I would be in danger because he will divorce me and if I was back in my parents country they would have killed me. I'll be staying in America but if he finds out is pretty bad because he would tell my parents, divorce me and after that I don't think my parents will ever want to talk to me.

J_9 · Jan 3, 2009, 07:12 AM

If you can afford it, there is a procedure called a hymenoplasty...

hymenoplasty - Google Search

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:17 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

If you can afford it, there is a procedure called a hymenoplasty......

hymenoplasty - Google Search

Omg! I would seriously do anything! If I don't pass that night as a virgin I will loose my family and husband and after that future will be gone.

J_9 · Jan 3, 2009, 07:19 AM

I know it's rather expensive, and I'm not sure whether it can be done in a month, but look at the Google search I found for you. Maybe there is a plastic surgeon in your area that can do this for you.

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:24 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

If you can afford it, there is a procedure called a hymenoplasty......

hymenoplasty - Google Search

I was just reading what you sent me! Its pretty awesome the problem is a lot of money but I will seriously consider that...

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:28 AM

J9 its very expensive but I will waste every dollar on that but sounds like a scary procedure

J_9 · Jan 3, 2009, 07:29 AM

I hope it works for you. Good luck!!

It has actually become very common in recent years.

J_9 · Jan 3, 2009, 07:30 AM

Originally Posted by perfectdolls

J9 its very expensive but I will waste every dollar on that but sounds like a scary procedure

It's not really that scary considering all of the other surgeries that happen on a daily basis. You just need to be sure that the doctor is a certified plastic surgeon. GET REFERENCES!!

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:33 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

It's not really that scary considering all of the other surgeries that happen on a daily basis. You just need to be sure that the doctor is a certified plastic surgeon. GET REFERENCES!!!

OK OMG! I'm in shock! I didn't know I was going to get marry so soon. It has been arrange by my parents so sudden I just have no choice.

J_9 · Jan 3, 2009, 07:36 AM

Originally Posted by perfectdolls

ok OMG! I'm in shock! I didnt know I was going to get marry so soon. It has been arrange by my parents so sudden I just have no choice.

I am so sorry you have to go through this. One would think that this day in age we, around the world, can marry the one we love, not the one that our parents think is right for us.

Have you even met this man?

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:41 AM

Yes I met him twice, when he propose and when we got engaged. He's a lot older and I'm sure he has lot of experience.

liz28 · Jan 3, 2009, 07:42 AM

Do you live in the US or outside the US?

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:42 AM

In usa

J_9 · Jan 3, 2009, 07:44 AM

Are you in love with him? Is he the man you want to spend the REST of your life with?

I understand the cultures are different, and I respect that, but this is the 21st century and we are not possessions any longer. We women are human beings who deserve to be happy and be in love with the one we will live with forever.

excon · Jan 3, 2009, 07:44 AM

Hello perfect:

I DO realize the danger you're in. It could be even worse than a divorce. I hope you're able to get the procedure that J_9 is recommending. It sounds PERFECT for your situation...

But, I have to tell you, speaking as your ordinary dumb guy, I could be fooled rather easily if the girl had a good story and knew how to squeeze her vagina pretty tight. Even, if you're not a virgin, and you held yourself that way, he's going to have to push. You may very well bleed too, and in your case, that ain't bad.

Besides, HE'S supposed to be a virgin too, isn't he? That would mean that he'd have no idea what to expect from a virgin or a non virgin.

excon

J_9 · Jan 3, 2009, 07:46 AM

Ex, Dear...

I don't believe the men have to be virgins. They are allowed to get their experience prior to marriage.

I may be wrong though... It won't be the first time today.

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:47 AM

Originally Posted by excon

Hello perfect:

I DO realize the danger you're in. It could be even worse than a divorce. I hope you're able to get the procedure that J_9 is recommending. It sounds PERFECT for your situation....

But, I have to tell you, speaking as your ordinary dumb guy, I could be fooled rather easily if the girl had a good story and knew how to squeeze her vagina pretty tight. Even, if you're not a virgin, and you held yourself that way, he's going to have to push. You may very well bleed too, and in your case, that ain't bad.

Besides, HE'S supposed to be a virgin too, isn't he? That would mean that he'd have no idea what to expect from a virgin or a non virgin.

excon

I hope so, if he is a virgin he would have no clue but I think olders explain when men are getting married what they should do on their wedding night and how to know if she is a virgin, that's what Im scared of.

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:49 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

Ex, Dear...

I don't believe the men have to be virgins. They are allowed to get their experience prior to marriage.

I may be wrong though....It won't be the first time today.

Your so nice! You gave such idea, I can't STOP THINKING ABOUT THAT MEDICAL PROCEDURE.

perfectdolls · Jan 3, 2009, 07:51 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

Are you in love with him? Is he the man you want to spend the REST of your life with?

I understand the cultures are different, and I respect that, but this is the 21st century and we are not possessions any longer. We women are human beings who deserve to be happy and be in love with the one we will live with forever.

I know what you mean but is more more complicated then that