[love092489]

Hello,
I have this problem that I seem to be dealing with. I have this idea that I have lost my self-worth! The last three guys that I have dealt with have screwed me over so bad. This one that I was dealing... he never put me down, but he never ever told me I was pretty not even cute. Now when I deal with guys when he is being sweet to me I feel like I don't know what to do. When a guy calls me beautiful I seem to get annoyed. I know that most women would love to have a man telling them how beautiful they are but not me. Now don't get me wrong I was not deprived of love as a child. I was always told that I was cute or pretty. I was always athletic and popular in high school. I mean I'm only 19 years old and I know that this can pose a problem for me in the future. I know that this all sounds like its contradicting itself. I don't know how to pick myself up and say... okay I don't need these men to be around and I can do fine all by myself. I keep going back to bad relationships because the good relationships scare me. Its like I don't think I deserve to be treated good! Help

[Choux]

You are going to meet a lot of men in your life who will flatter you, but remember, even if you are feeling needy, you DON'T have to have a sexual relationship with them!

You have to observe guys... see their character and their habits(excessive alcohol or other bad habits)... don't be afraid to be choosy at age 19. Some characteristics always lead down the road to misery... avoid guys with these tendencies.

Don't be desperate... build a life for yourself and the good ones will come!

[rebeccastrean22]

K well first of all I wanted to say is you don't need a guy to make you happy. You don't have to have a guy to make you feel good. I learned this from experience. Most girls/young laidies/women are into most "bad guys" because they think that its what they deserve but in the long run you will learn that you don't want to have a bad guy you would want a good guy that respects you and loves you for who you are. First be friends, the meaning of a friend is a person who knows where you've been, knows who you truly are and will always invite you to grow. Late you will soon learn that if you be friends and get to know each other and build that relaationship to something else pretty soon it will be strong and you can move to the next level. But remember you don't need to have a guy to make you happy it might seem that way but maybe its cause you have a empty space in your heart and your thought control you and you think that its what you deserve but really you deserve better. I was 16 and I was in to "bad guys" and what happened was he beat me really bad and I was pregnant with his kid and I lost the baby and now I can't ever have kids or get pregnant again. So I hope this helps you you just need sumtime to think on what really you want and need then just a guy.

[lrwilkins]

You are not alone in feeling that way. Men treat us certain ways and sometimes we allow it. But the good news it you can get over those feelings and start feeling better about yourself. I am providing you with a link to a self help blog for women. You can read their Top 10 Inspirational Sayings to yourself over and over until you realize how wonderful you are. I've been there. Others reading your post have been there. I'm sure these messages will help you.
http://helpselfwoman.com/blog/top-10-inspirational-sayings/2008/

Sooner or later you will find the right person for you. Stop running away from what you consider a good relationship. You do deserve the best. Keep telling yourself that. Seven months ago I decided I wanted to start dating again after a long relationship ended badly. I was by myself for a whole year. I met this guy at the gas pump and right now it is great. I'm not saying he is the one, but we BOTH are trying to leave the past behind and see where this goes. It will happen for you. Don't give up.