[301103]

Hi. My names shakar
I through a close mate of mine got to know a girl
She was so spectacular, she was so amazing
It was like her name was engraved on my heart
At first she wouldn't talk to me but she got to know me and we had so much in common
I realised that when I wherent speaking to her I was talking about her, and if not that thinking about her
I gave it time and I gradually realsied that id fallen in love with her
The way she was, the was she spoke it was so extrodaniry
I loved her so much that it was like, in the same way food is the source of energy for my body, she was the food for my soul
On the other hand how ever her family was very strict, They where Muslims like mines and me and her both use to worry if we could ever be
Her father was strict on getting family members married of to that of people he did not know
Time and time we had arguments about it but we always put our faith and trust in God
I use to write her poems at night when I couldn't go to sleep cause she woulnt get off my mind
We just had an argument at if we will ever be together
And she broke up with me
She was scared like I was
Not knowing what would happen
Why she fallen in love with me
She had never spoken to another boy beofre apart from family members
She broke up with me, a few minutes ago I was in tears and needed help
I never knew what to do I was in tears, love hurts
I went to Google search engine and I typed in "does love exist" and this site came up
I signed up and written this to get some advice
I love her
It hurts, she won't get out of my mind
Does love exist, and what should I do
I can never get over her
She's my first lovei can't get her out my head
I can't accept that fact that she's gone
Time doesn't heal deep wounds it never does
Why does it hurt so badly for
Why does it sting
Can you please help me, by replying to my question, does love exist if yes what should I do
Tanks shakar

[kctiger]

What do you mean does love exist? It obviously does as you are experiencing what it is like to lose that love. Yes, time does help, but without you helping yourself, it doesn't matter how much time you take. First thing, read the stickies on this forum. It hurts bad because it is your first, and that is always the hardest. Take some time for yourself and pour your heart and emotions out on here, as EVERYONE has been where you are right now.

[talaniman]

Easy fella, your still very fresh, and emotional, and need sometime to get it back together.

[TrueFaith]

Stop all that poem crap.. and love is like a drop of rain.. on the oil slik that is my life.

BAH!!

Listen love is out there. You have loved and lost.. it's a pitty but hey we all go threw it.
But don't make it worse by building something up too much.

Sadly family and your faith got in the way.. it's a silly thing in my view. But that is just me to you and her it seems to be important.. that's how life goes.
Of course you can get over her.
But from your writing you sound way to emotional at this point..

So relax clam down. Stop all the head in the clouds talk.. and get back to reality and move on

[Buddy19902003]

Yes, love does exist. I have felt it twice in my life for two different people. It is wonderful if it is returned, but if it isn't recipricated it can be hell.
There is something that may help you and that you should know, and that is about a condition called limerence. You should look this up on Wikipedia.com. If you meet some of the criteria for limerence you will know it.
Hope your heart doesn't break like mine has.
I have written poems as well
Best of Luck!

[Buddy19902003]

Knowing that there was a term for me and my feelings helped me. That was limerence and It helped me know I wasn't alone. Limerence can be another term for love. But, more specifically it would describe being in love and the feelings that are associated.

[OzWaz]

Love derives from two sources, biology or psychology and operates just like as magnetism or gravity. The biological variety comes directly from dna acting thought hormones for the purposes of reproduction. The psychology variety (which also comes from dna) but acts though neurons for the purpose of enhancing our lives and thereby supporting our preservation.

Both are valid forms and both essential to humans.

You will fall in biology love with a mate that is a suitable match with your evolved personality profile desires.(i.e. I like the way she smiles; I like the way he walks ) for the purpose of reproduction However it is not uncommon for the lover (lover = the one who the subject of our attention) to not have a reciprocal match with us .

However you can also fall in psychology love with anything (not limited to just people) that generates extreme emotional comfort [i.e. mum, dad, special places, special outcomes (i.e. money even)]

One or both is present in any relationship

Biological loves wains in step with your reproductive drive. Psychological love on the other hand can wax or wain depending of the strength of the external source in producing emotional comfort within us. (i.e. the more your pet provides you with pleasurable emotional experience the more you will grow to love your pet or anything or anyone else for that matter)

The only important thing to remember about psychological love is that WE determine the way we feel NOT others [that is why some people can still love their children or their parent no matter how badly they get treated by them because just like magnetism we at the emotional interface reverse the polarity of the negative into positive- to protect ourselves from negative out come (e.g. my mother/child does not love me = emotional hurt. Therefore we can reverse this to 'they do love me they just don't show it = I am loved by someone important to me = I am okay = emotional comfort)

So you can grow or let die or kill even, Psychological love when ever you want to but the news about the Biological love is not so good.

Divorce is a natural consequence of the demise of biological love in a relationship where psychological was never a component or was allowed to die or even killed.

As to your situation although you feel like you want to shrivel up and die at present take comfort that evolution has arranged a solution. There are simply ten of thousands of matches to our personality profiles desires and the next one could be just around the corner tomorrow. There is no just one right person for any of us

You could if you wish make a terrible mistake and get this love of your life to fall in psychological love with you by using all the tools available to you (this how a number of relationship are formed but rarely are the successful long term) but be warned that psychological love is all that will exist between you. However if you wait for a biological match and apply psychological love as well, I can guarantee you a relationship that will bring you profound happiness and contentment

[ajGambino]

time doesnt heal deep wounds it never does

You haven't tried it yet, so why assume it will never heal wounds?

Come back in a month or two, let me know how you feel then.