[alexisk907]

Ok...
I am dating this guy... we have been together for a year and a half now... hes 24 and I'm 19... I live with him and his parents (we are both in school full time). I'm in LOVE with him... I think. Well after I have these feelings I don't know and I'm really confused and want some help... my boyfriends name is kyle.

I dated this guy (nick) like 3 years ago.. but only for like a week because we were young then. He just got out of a 21/2 year relationship. We have started talking since then.

Me and kyle go out to dinner once a week.. thats the only thing he really likes to spend his money on for me.. he never buys me anything (which I don't care about but I'm saying like my birthday he just pulled 25 bucks out of his wallet and gave it to me). And also he really doesn't ever want to have sex.. like once a week.. but we used to have sex more. And for some reason its gotten a lot less... he knows I want to have sex but for some reason if he's not in the mood we aren't going to do it. Also when we do have sex he gets off and leaves the room and lets me 'do my thing' so he doesn't have to get me off.. he never really comes to my work to see me and I always see him.. he always has excuses that he doesn't have money for gas and its 'too far' (he's really stingy about his money). But when I'm with him I'm in love with him and I couldn't imagine being without him.

But nick... he comes to my work every morning (he came today at 5:50 am to be there right before I got there and had starbucks for me). He always says he wants to be with me but wants me to stay with kyle if I'm happy with him. He always says that he wishes he could be with me to spend his money on me (which is way weird considering kyle never wants to buy me anything - not a big deal just annoying how he always talks about money). Whenever I'm with nick I want to be with him too... he writes me notes online every day we aren't together. If I ever need anything he's right there. I needed my tire changed one day and he was there in like 10 minutes to do it. He tells me I'm beautiful all the time.

I'm in love with kyle, he's my world, but whenever I'm with nick I can't help but think what it would be like if we were together...
What do I do :(

I'm NOT cheatin on my boyfriend though. He knows we see each other but he doesn't know I feel this way. Just friends. I wouldn't cheat on my boyfriend.

[talaniman]

After reading your other posts I can see where your really confused, frustrated, and unhappy with your situation. The attentions of another feel a need, if only temporary, to feel good.

Your situation calls for some honest self evaluation, and making some changes to your entire life.

Between school, work, and finding yourself, you have a lot of stress, and for now getting pregnant is something you should not be seeking, (all your other posts are about getting pregnant) and whatever it takes to not get pregnant including abstinence, should be thought of.

The communications, and ability to work with your partner is striking, and will not improve unless you become a lot more independent of him.

Why are you living with his parents?? This if nothing else, should show you that you are not in a healthy situation, at least in my opinion.

You may have to step back, and make some better, more realistic decisions for yourself.