Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    dellancaster's Avatar
    dellancaster Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #1

    Sep 4, 2008, 06:36 AM
    He doesn't understand
    I've been with the same guy more than 20 years, we've dated on and off over that time, I've loved him forever. We finally got back together, and things are going really well, except, I got his initials tattooed on my chest, and he wants to know why. I can't make him understand I got the tattoo because I love him. He says he should have had a say, that being his girlfriend means he has part ownership of my body, I told him if we were married that might be true, but we're not, so it's not... AM I WRONG?
    liz28's Avatar
    liz28 Posts: 4,662, Reputation: 1034
    Ultra Member
    		  
    #2

    Sep 4, 2008, 07:40 AM
    Hmm, for twenty years you been in an off and on again relationship with him. Maybe he got upset because he looks at the tattoo as a commitment with you. Luckily you only got his intials instead of his name. Your right he not own your body only you.
    Romefalls19's Avatar
    Romefalls19 Posts: 4,739, Reputation: 1130
    Ultra Member
    		  
    #3

    Sep 4, 2008, 07:48 AM
    Nope, no one owns your body but yourself... Unless you sell it to science, then we have a problem
    bigdee's Avatar
    bigdee Posts: 132, Reputation: 20
    Junior Member
    		  
    #4

    Sep 4, 2008, 08:16 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by dellancaster
    that being his girlfriend means he has part ownership of my body
    He's wrong and you are right. It's one thing to have an issue with your tattoo because he doesn't like tattoos. But to say he has an issue with it because he has part ownership of your body is not right.
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #5

    Sep 5, 2008, 10:30 AM
    You should see the look my wife of 30 years just gave me when I told her that her body belonged to me!! LOL, not good.

    Just curious, why after 20 years you two aren't married?
    lawanwadee's Avatar
    lawanwadee Posts: 3,653, Reputation: 124
    Immigration Expert
    		  
    #6

    Sep 5, 2008, 10:47 AM
    In your opinion, tattoo is a symbol of love and commitment, but there are millions of people that don't see it this way. Many thinks it's stupid idea... imagine if you break up and want to marry someone else. In your case the truth is... having off and on relationship for 20 years can be interpreted that he does not want a commitment.
    JBeaucaire's Avatar
    JBeaucaire Posts: 5,426, Reputation: 997
    Software Expert
    		  
    #7

    Sep 5, 2008, 10:59 AM
    The tattoo is a red herring. You're on again/off again is heading towards "off again" and you're missing the signs.

    After 20 years, it's time to stop the ride. By that, I mean you need to walk away for good this time when it goes "off again"... or you need to stop trying to figure him out and just live with what you've chosen - a non-committed-long-term-sexual-relationship-with-frequent-vacations-from-one-another.
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

I don't understand [ 7 Answers ]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now. All of a "sudden", he doesn't feel like being intamite with me... this has been going on for the past 7 months. But he'll be "sneaky" and look at porn online,but still doesn't "want anything to do with me". When I try and be...

Need to understand her [ 12 Answers ]

Hi guys/gals, I´m a 30 y/o male, European (if that matters) and this is my first time around. Anyway, to the point: I´ve been working in this same place for almost 5 years now. When I first got there, there was a young woman (she´s 28 now) that caught my attention. Soon, I discovered that she...

I don't understand him! Or me! [ 3 Answers ]

Since he's a shy guy it's quiet hard to understand him. 1. we aren't that close, because we don't talk much even if we do it's mostly me starting the conversation!. and I'm fed up about it! 2. he barely comes to my class to chat up with me or anything! 3. we rarely hang out after skul, because...

Trying to understand you.S. [ 3 Answers ]

Hello everyone, I'm reading on CNN about Obama versus Clinton campaign fights. I'm trying to be more involved in U.S. politics but I'm going to honestly say that I've never been an active political player. I'm wondering if you guys could point me to a reliable website that would explain to me...

Trying to understand her. [ 4 Answers ]

I have been on and off with this girl for a couple months now. Before we met she broke up with a boyfriend and seems to still have some baggage from that. I have not been with her sexually in a couple of weeks because she made it clear that she wasn't ready to jump into a serious relationship yet...

View more questions Search