[breathless1]

There's a 40 something old man and a 32 year old woman.
They get on well and "click".
He told her he liked her couple of years back but she was never attracted or interested.
They got together when he went to see her new bathroom (he is in the building trade) and since getting to know each other have got on well and even spoken about marriage expectations.


But, since that, now, when he sees her around people they know, he becomes quiet/timid/uninterested or something.
They have spoken on the phone for hours twice before but that has stopped now, too inconvenient.

He is divorced (reasons given from his perspective only) has a 14 yr old, 17 year old and 4year old.
He wants a woman with no children around 32-35 years old.

The last time they spoke he asked where she was (at a friends) then strangely asked her to ask a mutual friend for the size of the wedding suit he has to buy for him?
Now, this man and the groom have made arrangements for the man to go to France for a wedding suit. Why would he be asking her for this information? He can't have been sure that she even had the friends number?
There was no conversation or random 'how has your day been' just this out of the blue question. She told him to ask the friend himself and he just asked her for this information again?

What make it even stranger is that the day before they got really close and he said he liked her and had been disclosing that the previous week he had been trying to fight the feelings. He then went home quite poorly and said he would call her.

He was continuously asking for her to go to France with him (to get the wedding suit for friend) but on the day he left he just said a basic hello when he saw her an 'I'm going now'and left.

Looks like he is just wanting a woman and not serious doesn't it? He openly expresses his attraction to mutual female friends as well.

After all, she was not attracted to him before, she just loves his personality. He is a big man, popular and extremely busy not attractive to her. His culture is African and he has a family.

She is a British single Londoner, keeps to herself in a moderate job and totally opposite.

Do you think he really likes her? Nah... Give me you opinion, thanks

[N0help4u]

Can she ask if he is still interested and why he is acting so distant?
Maybe his friend getting married is making him sad that it is not him getting married?
Does he act the same with her in all public places or just when they are around friends cause maybe he is just a shy person, but if he is doing that only certain places and certain people maybe it is because he still wants people to think he is available.
She needs to ask him questions to see where his head is at. Like where do you see us in a year from now and things like that.

[talaniman]

Communications will solve those problems, and answer any questions. That's what they need to do.

[Romefalls19]

Yep Tal is right, without communication you will constantly be looking for answers to questions that you can't answer

[breathless1]

Iv'e been through this before with older men.

He keeps on asking me "you wanna see me, you wanna see me?" And I'm like, what do you keep on asking me for?

If he really liked me he'd be like "What you doing, |I'm coming down/over" or "I'm taking you out". I miss you and I enjoy your company etc. But he seems to only talk mainly about how people appreciate him and admire him etc, not in an egotistical way because its true yes he is a nice fella, but it makes one feel insignificant.

Why keep on asking me if I miss him and want to see him?

Does this not sound like a little insecuriy or personal lack of something? What does it imply?

[Fr_Chuck]

It is all up to communication, first many younger women don't want anything to do with older me, so they are not sure of most posible rejection.

But communication is the key issue