[xxelainexx0]

This guy from school and I started talking a little over a month ago. We always liked each other and he finally asked me out a few days ago. We are both so happy now that we're finally together.

He told me a while ago that he is going to summer camp for three weeks. During this time, he can only send and receive letters, no phone calls or texting. Except one day after the second week when he is allowed to use his phone.

So now the time has come and he's leaving in five days. It didn't really dawn on me that we won't see each other for at least a month until today.

He told me that he's coming home August 2nd. August 4th, I'll be going on vacation for a week. After this, we'll have one week before we go back to school.

I don't know if I should tell him that we won't see each other during this week yet. Whenever we talk about him going away, he always points out that we'll still have two weeks together when he gets back. I really don't want to disappoint him and possibly ruin our future together by telling him it'll only be one week.

When should I tell him? Should I tell him before he leaves? Or in a letter while he's at camp? Or during the one day when he can call me?

I don't want him to break up with me because our summer together is ruined. We're in completely different circles at school and hang out with different people, so I don't know how it'll work out during the school year. We like each other so much and he always tells me how lucky he is to be my boyfriend, so I hope things will last past the summer.

A few weeks ago, he mentioned another girl who he likes (well, liked her when he said that) who has a boyfriend right now. He said that her and her boyfriend will probably break up soon. So I'm praying that my boyfriend and her don't get together while I'm on vacation.

I really, really do not want to ruin our last five days together by telling him now. Everything was so perfect. What do I do?

[Guidostern]

A solid relationship is always built on honesty and communication. I'm not sure how old you are, but if you want your relationship to work you'll need to be open with him... Respect and trust are very important factors, so don't hide anything from him or else that trust and respect could be broken before it is ever really there...

Good luck..

[Romefalls19]

Honesty and communication are two building blocks of a relationship, tell him now before he finds out from someone else and then he is angry because you didn't tell him

[JBeaucaire]

I'd suggest you stop over-romanticizing your growing friendship. It takes a LOT of things working out simultaneously for people to be successful bf/gf. You two don't have any of that going for you this summer.

You can tell him or not, I don't think it will really matter. You're going to have fun or you're not. If you two are so stressed about the future that you can't enjoy the present, you're not ready for real deep relationships anyway.

Think about it. Take care of today, enjoy yourselves. You're splitting up for most of the summer and ANYTHING can happen during that time. You have no control over it, so fearing those possibilities is a waste of energy. Don't bother. Enjoy yourselves.

I do think you should tell him, but I REALLY think you both should pull back on the gloom and doom about it all. Life is what it is. As you said already, even with what little time you have together this summer, you have no idea how next school year will go. Right?

With all that unpredictability in the future, why spoil the present with depressed worrying? Why do that at all? It doesn't help, does it?

[ISneezeFunny]

... so you two got together a few days ago... and you have less than a week together, and you're already planning out the rest of the summer?. I don't even plan out my dinner plans until an hour or so before dinner.

JB's right... slow down? Tell him your summer plans, and tell him you'll see him when he gets back. What happens next... happens next.